If you're going to start appreciating an entire gender for the acts of its individuals, that means you need to tag men with the Holocaust (hey, Hitler was a man), most rapes and murders, most wars, etc. Is it fair to tag men generally, as a gender, with these?
Seems to me as a guy, I would think you'd resent that. No?
War is a very human thing. Because of size and strength, men tend to be the attackers and defenders of our society, so yeah, they are the instruments of war, but it isn't that war is male, it is that war is human. Similarly, to improve technology is human. Being out and about for thousands of years, men have had more exposure to education, different ways of doing things etc, all of which are huge advantages when creating inventions - but the urge to improve is very human.
It IS reasonable to ask why women don't appreciate the free drinks, the doors opened, from the individual doing it rather than simply taking it as an entitlement of being a woman. Yeah, maybe it is one of many tools that men have of trying to get into relationships with women, but civility is not always an overture to sex.