When a male and female are introduced from afar, there is no personality, onlybapoearance, so visual physique is the main attraction,
If a guy walks up to a tree, he is not going to think, “ baby you’re the one for me, “ unless they’re a lumberjack or tree climber.
So the male in the scenario will scope out the Thorpe of female they wish upon, or set of females as group, not attraction really yet, and in this social realm, one can not simple drag a cave man by the hair stereotypically, anymore...
As a person or personality comes after contact, language, they have to both speak the same terminology, characteristics , sound scent, etiquette, mannerisms, all tally up in the personality, it counts, but not straight up, because realism take time to adhere to personas,
So how does one go about conversing with a virtual other, as though online, without visual reality check, it is putting the cart before the horse , when the horses mouth has more than mere minced words, behaviour and genetics and traits, can become compatible over time, but not instantly cause of say so.