There is no such method as the one that someone might discover one day and started applying the next. It is not easy, and not possible beyond certain limits of ability, to remains suspended in doubt and uncertainty, for we must remain expectant of some good in everything in order for hope to survive. The fact is we need a certain amount of faith in everything, a certain level of trust in everyone, in order for us to be able to do anything at all, to relate to other people, and feel comfortable in our relations.
When we are young, we trust our patents completely, just as much as we love them. This makes us very endearing in their eyes. This, however, does not mean that our parents are perfect human beings, they are just the best there is for us, and we need them more than anything, definitely more than our natural tendency to cast doubts, our constant need to question and clear our mind, and apply certain reservations in our dealings.
Then as we grow up, and if that bond of trust that we had with our patents was not betrayed, we develop into this world and form new relations. This time we trust less and doubt more, we remain reserved among strangers and in the company of less known people. We like to know better about other people. However, the core of our being always remains wanting some ways to trust someone the way we trusted people when we were young – our search for our ideals never ends.
In a practical life, it not only the trust that forms the centre of our being, but also our new hopes and overwhelming expectations, our powerful ambitions and cherished dreams, our heartfelt desires and pressing needs, all this creates a strong and binding personal imperatives for us to remain positively biased towards expecting nothing but good things of people we like, love, see as part of our dreams or of a better future, or see them as a means to realising our dreams.
It is therefore extremely hard to engineer our attitude and behaviour, i.e. to fit each and every situation of life. We learn through experience, and this is the only way. Sometimes, it takes a lifetime to be wise enough, to become moulded into the form of a person who is careful enough without losing the ability to risk, to take a chance on new things.