We live just under 2 hours north - in the Hudson Valley. We get into NYC often - once a month or so - for cultural and sports event, dining, etc. But we could NEVER afford the beautiful home and property we have, if we lived closer. Nor could we afford to travel, etc. If you want to LIVE in NYC, you had better be taking advantage of all the museums, night life, concerts, OFTEN - otherwise, it is a better lifestyle ot live a short distance away. Suburbs nearer NYC are still very pricey - you need to move further away before you realize a difference. And YES - there are people who commute - the trains and buses are full of them - but many folks find a way to NOT do that 5 days a week. This is a personal and lifestyle decision, as well as a financial and employment one. And there are many folks who have a tiny place in NYC - and then buy an escape house up here. THAT is the best of both worlds, and does not have to cost as much as you think. We have a LOT more than farms up here, you know - lots of arts, fine dining (the Culinary is here, and many graduates stay and open incredible places!) and if you need to get into NYC - easy drive or mass transit. Has worked this way for us for the last 45 years - and as we age, we will NEVER move - unless we go into a Drooling Academy. I grew up a short drive from Boston, and we always thought of th city center as aplac you went to for special things - but HOME was where you had a yard, garage, your dog could run free (OK, now there are leash laws . . .) and SPACE. Mom worked nearby, Dad had a commute into *town* - Boston - for work. That was the way it was - but we were less than 20 miles away. 90 miles is different, even with mass transit - although you can eat, sleep, and do some office work on the train or bus. I taught 3 miles from my house - and some colleagues said that they liked a longer drive, since it gave them a mental transition. To each his own.