How do you view the boys you know? Or, to put it another way, what is the chance that you would have a relationship with any of them? Have you ever given yourself an opportunity to fall in love. Quite often things happen on first encounters because there is no prejudgement of that person.
You can if you choose get on the cattle market. It seems to be big business these days. You have a choice from clubbing to online dating sites.
When was the last time you were invited to a party and turned up bottle in hand? Ever thought about arranging your own? Think of a theme, a location, a time, a reason and get a socialite or two to give you a hand.
Then there is targetting. That is homing in on some hapless guy. You first task is to get him to talk to you. He's flattered because you are paying an interest in him. If you find he is a complete bore you make your excuses and leave. If you are comfortable with him the next stage is to get him to listen to you. A little more difficult because we men tend to be full of ourselves. But certainly you can develop a relationship with someone who can shut up, listen and respond intelligently. Of course there are those men who will open their ears in the hope that you will open your legs
That reminds me - talk to female friends. You will probably find that they know all about men, and all the tricks to trapping, seducing and ditching. It is likely to be a mixture of lies and half truths. If you accept an offer to get hooked up, then you are desperate.
If things are not working out as you may hope, unless you make some changes things will remain much as they have been. I would reckon that most of your friends who are now developing their relationships met when they were teenagers, and it seems that the older one gets there are fewer opportunities for chance encounters, particularly if all the eligible bachelors are spoken for.
To be the lady of a man's dreams you have to put yourself in a new situation, this might mean a change of accommodation, of work place, or where you worship, or socialise.
The final warning is be careful what you wish for. We men tend to have an over rated opinion of ourselves, and most men who get married are oft reminded they were not the answer to the maiden's prayer.