It's not arrogance at all.
And you're already ruining any chances you might have of being an actor, as genuine actors have no interest in fame.
That's a shallow goal and not a good reason to get into acting. In fact, it's the worst possible reason.
Real actors would carry on acting even if they could see into the future and knew for certain they'd never get a good role in any big production - because that's what's going to happen for 95% of all actors.
Actors, when they attend auditions, don't think they're 'the best'. They just hope that the casting directors will think they're good actors, directable, easy to work with, and that they fit their vision of the character they're casting.
And it's most definitely NOT true that the "most arrogant" actors get callbacks.
Callbacks go to the few actors who the casting directors think will fit the role best.
Yes - they like to see confidence, but that is NOT the same thing as arrogance. In fact, no director wants to work with an arrogant diva. If you're lacking confidence, do what you're supposed to be trained in - act!
That's what all the other auditionees will be doing - acting like they're confident even though they're just as anxious and nervous as you are.
Of course they care what the judges think - their winning the role depends on it!
But they hide it, so they can just get on with their job, act their socks off, and impress them.
However, it does sound like whatever training you've had wasn't good enough, or they'd have taught you all about auditioning and prepared you for it.
So if you can put this silly and unrealistic idea of becoming famous right out of your head, and you've had years of high-quality training at a good acting school and loads of stage experience, go to whatever auditions your agent sends you to and keep trying.