I learned this through my disappointments.
"We're born into a childhood rhythm of "unlimited potential". Our young lives are sung to us in battle drum hymns. Our attentions often squirrel'd away into the unreal, only to be kicked harshly by the cement wall of life."
If your goal is to be the first person on the moon, you'll be disappointed to know you're 46+ years late. Armstrong did that in 1969 on Apollo 11. Setting realistic goals sounds a bit obvious after that doesn't it? However...
What is realistic? What is unrealistic? How do you know limitation? How do you stay in context?
Through acquisition of knowledge by experience. Acquisition of knowledge from the experiences of others. Knowledge through observing experimentation.
Let's define contentment, it's a type of equilibrium isn't it? A position between amazing joy and the depths of regret; a position where one's satisfied with life.
Given we know our context. We can plan a direction to execute. Then the only think we need left is "what?"
What would make you reach contentment in this ever-changing-always-learning environment?
Would it be the goals that society has set before you, or will you set these goal yourself?
After chasing money, power, and success, all of which were narrated to me as synonyms for happiness, I found not. My parents sung this same song, as did my peers, as did the echo chambers of culture, capitalism, and companions.
I discovered that I am content by being relevant to the people around me. I don't need to be famous, known, or honored, I simply wish to be of value. Each person is different. These are my goals and not yours.
Many people who are content find their own way. Bookworms bury themselves in narratives. Artists express themselves through their work. Celebrities bask in the showered attention of others. Competitors play their ambitions and welcome the fury of sport. They found what is equilibrium for them.
In the context of their existence, they adventured, experienced, and grew wise to what motivates them. They started listening to themselves rather than reverbs of society.
· 8 months ago