If you two can't work it out, then enlist the help of a marriage counselor who will help you both learn to communicate better and learn ways to resolve your issues.
"She's not affectionate or uplifting towards me as a person." - You don't indicate if she was before you married and then stopped, or she never was. If it's the former, you need to figure out what happened to cause her behavior to change. If the latter, then you're unrealistic to expect her to behave differently after marriage than she did prior.
EDIT: You said "She was not like this before. She is working on some depression issues. We are in counseling and things are getting a little better, but my emotional needs are not being met." in a comment to someone else. Knowing THAT would have affected the answers you got (that she was NOT like that before you married, AND that you two are in counseling together). Stick with the counseling and discuss in those sessions that your emotional needs aren't being met, but they were before you two married, so what does the counselor suggest you two do to return to the pre-marital emotional satisfaction state?