Perhaps scared straight might not be the best option, but instead outward bound or some other programs. There is such thing as defiance disorder, and my cousin (who is 15) has it. She has recently gone to therapy and programs for it across the country after breaking too many rules and crossing too many lines. In her program, she had to work from the bottom up to get more privileges and work with the rules that the people put in front of them, as well as therapy to pinpoint why the child may think the way they do. She worked with psychologists and was also supervised very well, and socialize with other teens (your son might have some bad influences at school, youth group that are feeding into this). If you look up programs for kids with defiance disorders, it could be an option.