I understand and feel for you. But this is honestly NOT love. Take this as a mother's blunt talk. This is not love and I honestly feel you're a little naive. Not for loving, but for judging. Everyone feels love and closeness to other people. Even I did at your age. But this is not love. It is mere short-lived infatuation that'll perish with time. He's kicking and choking! Seriously?!! He pulled a knife! He was about to throw you down the stairs! He cheated on you before! He flirts with other girls! I can't help but say...what the heck is wrong with you? I really don't mean to be rude. Take this coming from a mother - the blunt, cold, hard truth - you honestly really need to leave him! And don't think of me as the overcautious and annoying mom. You honestly really need to leave. Actions speak louder than words. The fact that he can even think of pulling a knife and throwing you down and cheating on you and you're still thinking about him is beyond me. I've had fights with my husband. And serious fights. We've yelled at each other and pushed and shoved. But never have either of us even thought of pulling a knife or cheating on the other or doing something like that. Seriously, coming from a mother, take this to be my sincerest blunt advice. I've raised kids. And they've all had boyfriends and stuff. My daughter brought her boyfriend to visit. And we've all known him for about 3 months now. He's very smart and kind and caring and protective. And he's just family to us. He comes home, visits, plays with the other kids from the neighborhood. They sleep over over the holidays. We know him completely. We know he's a man of integrity and that we can trust him even if it were to be with our lives. My daughter completely trusts him. He's very helpful and caring and protective of her. That's how relationships and love and trust is supposed to be. I feel for you and understand you feel close to your bf. And my daughter went thru something like this also - although not even close to what you're going thru. And honestly, if it had been my daughter going through what you're going through, I honestly probably would've called the police. What he's doing to you is not the so called everyday fights. He's abusing you, he's hurting you, and he's dangerous. And that all can very well amount to be a criminal offense. Seriously, think about what I've said. And I'm giving you advice that I would have given to my daughter had she been in your place. You honestly really need to leave him.
RESPONSE TO UPDATES: At this point, I think you're just trolling us. "What should I do?" Seriously? You're still asking that question. We've all given you our advice. And it's the same! And my advice is still and will always be the same too. For a man who can even think of doing what your bf has been doing is a disgrace. And to my list of his vile deeds above, add physical force. The fact that he's doing what he's doing and you're even thinking about him is, with all due respect, completely f*cked up. This is not the time for depression or crying. You need to leave him and move on with you life.
· 4 years ago