How long should you wait before tying the knot with someone?

Question

Researchers have found out that waiting can be beneficial for a marriage. (https://finance.yahoo.com/news/heres-many-years-relationship-expert-212246275.html) So today we are asking you: How long would you be willing to wait for your loved one to pop the question? What factor does age play? And how long should...

Answer 1

Based upon my own life experience and from observing others who marry REGARDLESS of the amount of time spent together beforehand, I believe that no one should "tie the knot" in today's society anymore. The true meaning of marriage AND the significance of a commitment of being together with only that one beloved person for their lifetime, is no longer earnestly correlated, especially in the developed western nations.

Historically, marriage had far more signification and benefit to the married couple because it was literally entrenched as a lifelong allegiance. Couples bonded together through mutuality of character, beliefs, amenability and devotion in a way that is rarely seen today. Society has bent the rules so much, especially during the past century until now, that anyone can basically do whatever they want, whenever they want, and to the extent that it makes the statute of marriage a travesty.

Our current society is constantly changing the specifications of what "marriage" is or should be. For example, the legal system in general makes it far too copious when marriage partners mutually agree that they no longer feel the marriage is worth continuing. A "no-fault divorce" allows a couple to easily obtain a divorce - without any ramifications. Some marriages are so short, the ink on their marriage license isn't even dry before divorce proceedings begin. Since this perspective is so common today, what then, would be the purpose of marrying in the first place?

Even as recent as the early 20th century, people married and stayed married - 50 years or more was commonplace. Today, a couple celebrating their wedding anniversary beyond even 5 years is considered a 'remarkable success'. Marriage should be a foundation of sincere love, mutual respect and loyalty that shouldn't ever be taken lightly. It's such a shame that it has become a sham.

Answer 2

Based upon my own life experience and from observing others who marry REGARDLESS of the amount of time spent together beforehand, I believe that no one should "tie the knot" in today's society anymore. The true meaning of marriage AND the significance of a commitment of being together with only that one beloved person for their lifetime, is no longer earnestly correlated, especially in the developed western nations.

Historically, marriage had far more signification and benefit to the married couple because it was literally entrenched as a lifelong allegiance. Couples bonded together through mutuality of character, beliefs, amenability and devotion in a way that is rarely seen today. Society has bent the rules so much, especially during the past century until now, that anyone can basically do whatever they want, whenever they want, and to the extent that it makes the statute of marriage a travesty.

Our current society is constantly changing the specifications of what "marriage" is or should be. For example, the legal system in general makes it far too copious when marriage partners mutually agree that they no longer feel the marriage is worth continuing. A "no-fault divorce" allows a couple to easily obtain a divorce - without any ramifications. Some marriages are so short, the ink on their marriage license isn't even dry before divorce proceedings begin. Since this perspective is so common today, what then, would be the purpose of marrying in the first place?

Even as recent as the early 20th century, people married and stayed married - 50 years or more was commonplace. Today, a couple celebrating their wedding anniversary beyond even 5 years is considered a 'remarkable success'. Marriage should be a foundation of sincere love, mutual respect and loyalty that shouldn't ever be taken lightly. It's such a shame that it has become a sham.

Answer 3

I was widowed young. Now I am engaged. It's a loooong engagement and my choice. 7 years so far. Maybe, just maybe I will consider tying the knot if my fiance wants to wait another decade or two. I am in no hurry the second time around. Living together will show a person's true colors and it is not always pretty in some cases. Little quirks can become big ones. I figure there is always a dark side to a person and that is the person I want to see emerge to make a better determination if I should stay. Then you can decide if you still want to get married or move on.

Answer 4

Well, having sex with your mate doesn't make this is the right person to marry, there is no time to wait before tying the knot with someone it could be years or never, the main thing is to grow and learn much about your mate before popping the big question or accepting with that magical word yes { female mostly } ,Age is no factor long as it's legit, some of my friends got married to quick and now living the single life or working on their second or third marriage to sum it up , again there is no time to wait before tying the knot but to me too soon is not a good idea

Answer 5

Tying the knot with another human being is one of the greatest celebrations we can receive in our society. Being with someone is a blessed and spiritual gift, and it is not to be treated upon lightly. Meeting the love of your life is a very special part of life. Love hurts, but eventually everyone will find someone. When you find that one, special person that you want to face the world with, you must come to a decision - are you ready to tie the knot with this person? Do their ideals match yours? What about the long run? Will they want children? Will they bring an adequate income to support the two of you (or more in the case of a polygamous relationship)? But the most fundamental question of all; do you love this person enough to settle down and tie the knot with them?
If the answer is yes, then sit your partner down and tell him/her/they/xis/xer/xey/nongenderspecif... pronoun that you're ready for a life of knot-tying with them. Have something prepared; preferably the rope itself - the rope of life.
Cross the two ends of the rope so that it makes an x-shape. From there, put one of the sides through the loop that was created and tug hard. Make sure your partner is participating as well and you will have tied the matrimonial knot with them. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

2 years

Answer 7

Hi Yahoo! Great question here, most will surely enjoy answering! I will have to agree with the experts! Waiting is definitely going to help. It will allow both sides to get to know each other perfectly and also adapt to flaws and other defects that will be detected during the wait. Generally speaking, 3-4 years from the start of the relationship should be enough to sort everything out and make a decision about tying the knot and yes, age is definitely something to consider. I wouldn’t want to be 30 or more to get it done!

Answer 8

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........

are you ready to marry in my opinion?

are you both over 18?

are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)

are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?

are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)

do you trust your partner?

are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)

if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 9

the answer for this isn't any number of years......... i believe you should only tie the knot if you are so secure in your relationship that you can get through fights, genuinely trust each other, and have no doubt that they truly love each other......... if you two have to get away from each other every time they fight, if a fight results in a break up, if one suspects the other of cheating, regardless if the other person did or not, or if there's any doubt they should be together, they aren't ready for marriage......... building a secure relationship may take a year, or it may take 10 years.........

are you ready to marry in my opinion?

are you both over 18?

are you shalling to compromise (compromise doesn't mean you get everything, and your partner gets nothing.........)

are you without a doubt sure you want to spend the rest of our life with your partner?

are you able to pull through fights? (without taking a break for some time)

do you trust your partner?

are you able to accept the negative things about your partner? (they're not perfect.........)

if you can answer yeah to every question, you have a secure relationship......... if you say no to any of these questions, it doesn't necessarily mean you're bad......... in fact, maybe you have a good reason for not trusting your partner, for example......... nevertheless, your relationship isn't secure enough for marriage......... when you get married, you aren't just marrying their positive qualities......... you are also marrying the qualities they have that you hate......... marriage is a rose......... roses are awesome to have, but you shouldn't run into a bed of roses 'cause they have thorns......... admire the roses, but watch out for the thorns.........

Answer 10

2 years