I have a fiance and a crush?

Okay, so I've been in a committed relationship for 3.5 years and have gotten engaged with this person. It's been great for a while, but for the past few monthes things have seem to taken a negative turn and I get the feeling that it won't last much longer. We're in a position where if it ends, though, my fiance might not have a place to live or anything and I still care enough not to let that happen.

But I have also been crushing on another person, someone I met in work, for a little bit. I'm not sure where this person and I might stand, but my heart is kind of saying to pursue this more. I'm not sure how to go about handling this situation.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago
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    You need to treat these as two separate issues. First you need to sort things out with your fiancé. If the two of you chose to end it, then you can figure out the whole crush thing. The crush shouldn't play a factor in whether or not you end your engagement. You need to decide what's right for you.

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    You shouldn't get married. That much is abundantly clear. You should probably break it off with your fiance. Maybe some tough love would do him some good. Whether you pursue your crush is up to you. The most important thing is to call off the wedding asap.

  • 5 years ago

    STOP all this weakness and take control of your life and problems.Tell your fella its over and face the consequences,it will all sort itself out.You cannot play him along like this when you see no future in the relationship.Set yourself free and you can crush on who you like.

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