I used to post under the name "atypical" in the forums, and I've been meaning to respond to this thread, because it appears to be the only remaining lifeline to the old group. I'm definitely mourning the loss of the forum. It's really a shame that it disappeared, because there were a bunch of good, kind, helpful people on it, of both men and women. There were more than a handful of folks there that really helped me out personally when I was going through some difficult challenges. Sure, there were crazies and trolls that would pop up every now and again, as there are in every internet forum, but such persons' views would quickly be picked apart and challenged. Misogyny and misandry were not tolerated.
It wasn't a forum of self-pity. "Incel" was discussed as not some kind of disorder, or condition that one has no control over, but simply a situation which any person can find themselves in at different points in their life. We would regularly talk about strategies for improving ourselves and overcoming our situation, getting over some of our insecurities and challenging some unhelpful ideas and misconceptions about relationships and dating. I've definitely felt a void since it's no longer around, and sometimes there are things I feel the need to talk about, but no longer have a place to do it.
Although I can't say I've completely overcome incel since the forum shut down, I managed to make a lot of strides in shedding my old attitudes and beliefs, just taking to heart some of the solid advice I've gotten there. I wish I had kept in touch with some of these folks before the forum shut down for the second time, because I feel like some of them could've been my friends. If any of you are reading this, just want to say thank you, and I hope you're doing OK, wherever you are. ~atypical