I feel like I'm losing myself/ don't know who I am anymore?

I have no idea who I am anymore, and it's scaring me a little bit.

I'm in the last year of high school, and I have no idea about what I want in the future

One day I'll tel myself l want to travel, the next day study, the one after that i decide I want to fulfill my biggest (and most likely "impossible") dreams. I will go from super-passionate about these ideas, to not caring at all. Also I worry so much these days when it comes to social situations, I'm very anti-social towards new people these days cause im so worried I won't have anything interesting to say, and when I do engage I am super anxious and want to quit the conversation as soon as possible, at the same time as I want to seem interesting. It just feels as if I won't have anything to talk about, because I have no idea who I am anymore. I don't know how to act because I feel as if my personality is fading.

I also feel like I don't find as much joy in the things i used to love, for example i used to be super passionate about movies, games, writing stories of my own.. and these days, even if i still enjoy these activities..I don't find myself as passionate about them. I feel empty, and tired all of the time. Especially tired, and I have a very hard time finding motivation to do something. So instead

I find myself sleeping way too much, or being bored. Despite this, I do have a decent amount of friends, although i'm starting to feel anxious around the friends I'm not super-close to. Like, I feel i won't be entertaining enough, and because of these feelings I'm not the bubbly, energetic girl i used to. (I can still be this person around some people, but very very few).

One thing I want to bring up again is the going from super excited to not caring at all, I will often get really excited about doing something (for example i got the idea to start dancing, and drawing) and then after the smallest amount of time I have no motivation for it anymore. This is a really frustrating scenario of mine, that happens all the time.

Any ideas on how I can fix this, or any ideas on what is going on with me would be helpful..

6 Answers

  • 6 years ago

    I was going through the same thing a few months ago and the most important thing I realized is that if you are doing great, motivated, passionate about your hobbies, interests, and goals, you may decide to stick to a routine. Then you break the cycle because of lack of motivation or life's struggles and eventually you and your passion have a falling out so you get depressed and will always have this moment where you think hmm...if I couldn't stick to this then what am I good for? Its too late. Well actually this happens to everyone and that moment is not the its too late moment. Its the crossroad between giving up and continuing. If you give up it will be too late but you have the power to stop this and say I'm not waiting anymore lets keep going. And if you decide that you WILL be successful!

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  • 6 years ago

    Well, given your age, it is normal to a certain extent. It is always a time to shed old skin, and discover new things about yourself, and who you really are. Also, it is natural for you to feel slightly depressed due to these sudden changes in your attitude and outlook on things. My advice to make a change would be to try and find new things that you could be passionate about like you were with the old things (movies, games, writing stories of your own). Or you could maybe try and rekindle the passion you once had for those things.

    Just be natural with yourself. Whatever feels better, good, okay, do it! Now is the time of your life to take bigger steps towards what you want, and finding what you really need from your life. :)

    I hope this helped you out a little!

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    Eh, it's normal. Look at it this way, some lucky people know what they want to do, either from an early age or within their late teens. They just "know", and they go for it. About 90% of the other people don't really know until they find it.

    When you go to college, don't declare your major yet; just take your electives; and dabble around in a few different subjects. There'll be some classes that you hate, and there will be other classes that you love. You have time, chill.

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  • 6 years ago

    It sounds like you need to talk to someone sweetheart. The following is a list of helplines (phone, email and IM) with people who can offer you better advice than we can. Use them hun...

    Childline: http://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx

    NSPCC: http://www.nspcc.org.uk/

    SAMARITANS: http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/cont...

    Winstons Wish UK: http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/page.asp?section=00...

    CRIN: http://www.crin.org/resources/infodetail.asp?ID=69...

    Having said that, I just read the answer here. It's pretty good. Though I still think the above links will help you.

    Keep smiling Emma, life always gets better over time :)

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  • 5 years ago

    I been feeling like this for 3montgs going into 4 , idk y i just feel lost like i hate life , im not happy anymore i cant even say I love you to my mom cuz I dont feel it .

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  • Anonymous
    6 years ago

    1) Sorry to learn.

    2) Keep your chin up. Don't forget to get your yearly physical....and maybe think of some brand new hobbies to work on that may make you happy. Think of what will make you happy and focus on that.

    3) This page posts daily motivational posters: https://www.facebook.com/pages/YOU/422664881166451

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