My girlfriend asks me to do A LOT of small favors and its getting out of hand?
I've only been dating this girl for a month or so and so far so good. But one thing that's starting to bother me is all the small favors she's asking me to do. I don't mind helping her out every once in a while but its getting ridiculous. Little things like "can you go to the store and buy me a coke" or "can you get my phone from my dresser?" I'm well equipped to handle most any "**** test" women throw at me but this is a bit of a curve ball because she's not asking me to do anything out of the ordinary. All of her requests are perfectly reasonable, she's always polite and respectful when she asks and its always something i can do with minimal effort or time. The problem is she's asking me for these favors almost constantly now and its way too much. Dont get me wrong, its honestly no big deal for me to go out to her car and grab her purse for her but I'm her boyfriend...not her butler. How do I slow this down while maintaining my masculinity and WITHOUT being an asshole?
- Anonymous6 years agoBest Answer
Hey hopster,just to say your a great guy for doing all her favors,but well it seems like she's taking advantage of you,mate.Just be straight with her and tell her everything you said in your question,just be all like,"I don't mind doing things for you sweetheart,but lately it seems like there's more and more to do for you,and well I was thinking if you can cut it down a little bit."You know?But make sure you have an extra sweet voice with her so that she doesn't get offended:)Best of luck!!Take it easySource(s): My mind;)
- GoodLv 66 years ago
In private, write down the next ten
favors she asks you for, that you
do for her, with a smile and a kiss.
When you get to ten, then begin
asking her for favors. Don't say a
word about any that she makes
an excuse to not do for you. Just
add that to your notes.
I highly suspect that she is using
you as her personal gopher and
that she has a lazy streak in her.
Just keep score. How many favors
do you grant her and how many
she refuses to do for you.
When you are good and fed up
with doing for her what she can
easily do for herself, then you
can pull the plug and demand
that she even the score or get off
her lazy backside and do some
things for herself.
Remind her that it's for her own
good, considering that her sitting
around all the time and you doing
everything for her is damaging to
her health, and then tell her how
much weight you have noticed
she has gained in her backside
since you have catered to her
desires for so long.
- Anonymous6 years ago
...You talk to her about it...for example: hey babe, I don't mind doing things for you once in a while but I'm not your butler and these little requests such as getting your purse out of the car or getting your lipstick from the counter it's getting out of hand. You're capable of getting up and getting it yourself.