dear, I'm sorry you feel the way that you do and that it has become so intense for you that you resorted to calling your husband useless and want to dictate how he should behave on your behalf. Hopefully, your mother is helping you in your confusion and sadness. Did her marriage hold? Or was there a divorce between your parents?
Unfortunately, since you have shared no details of this turn of events, it isn't possible to counseling you on it because we've no facts to sort through. We've no idea what you think being treated fairly means. Or why.
It sounds like, while"visiting" your Mom, you got in an enormous fight with your husband over the phone? Flaring tempers and accusations and furry and mistrust? Yeah. Those phone fights are not about communication. Clearly, on a more mature level, this needs to be discussed again but not over the phone.
Are people chasing you with knives or what?