How to accept my boyfriend's past as a drug addict and john?
We are so in love, and I know we are meant to be together (it's a feeling, plus we had lots of crossing of paths before we entered each other's lives) and it hurts me to think that this person I love so much was in such a low place that he didn't care that what he was doing could kill him.
I just can't make the past and present compatible. How can I develop a more gracious and complex view of this? Perhaps an elaboration of the "what he did before you, made him who he is and led him to you" wouldn't be terrible.
@sleepingliv I am the reason that he has changed, which makes me feel uncomfortable, not superior. I want the person I love to feel valuable regardless of my existence. I had a pretty narrow, simplistic way of viewing people before him; loving him has showed me how many hats a person can wear. I love him completely with his past, it's just trying to frame it in the present that is troubling me.