Is fearing God the same as fearing an abusive husband?
1. The woman believes that the violence was her fault. (Christians believe sin is their fault)
2. The woman has an inability to place the responsibility for the violence elsewhere. (Sort of the same as the first one)
3. The woman fears for her life and/or her children's lives. (Hell and eternal damnation or even fear of god hurting them for "sins" they commit or might commit in their daily lives)
4. The woman has an irrational belief that the abuser is omnipresent and omniscient. (This one is kind of obvious. Being everywhere all the time and seeing all is kind of God's thing)
Also this sounds a lot like God:
You're nothing without God. If you even think about leaving Him... You don't deserve Him. You'll never find anyone good as Him. You brought this upon yourself. God knows best. You're a terrible person, and you need Him to be better. You're not worthy of His love. He is only doing this because he loves you. Don't listen to anyone who doesn't understand what you and God have. etc.
Sounds like an abusive douchebag to me.