I am on your team as well Itachi should have not killed his family. A man who kills his family has little to no ties to anything. Itachi was a bit estranged, Killing his Clan and family. I mean what ties did he have besides himself his little brother, and a legendary Uchiha who wanted to take on the Village. Itachi was not one for confrontation as the Manga says. So I believe for his distaste of fighting Itachi took the easy way out. Killing his loved ones. We could not even imagine how much harder, that decision was. But I do know how wrong it was, and how unforgiving, an action like that is. No room for forgiveness, that would be leaving deaths in vain. I fate worse then disgrace, and dishonor. But what I know is that the hidden leaf had the advantage: Point 1: Hidden Leaf has over whelming odds compared to the Uchiha. Point 2: Hidden Leaf knew of there plans and Itachi was there spy. Point 3: The Leaf's Shinobi, Itachi, made the a terrible decision. The Uchiha could in no way have planned a successful, war with the information, the Leaf held and Itachi, But Danzo gave the order, out of pure cowardly fear. And with Madara on the other side Itachi choose to kill thoose closest without seeing the facts. There was never any need, for Itachi to fight in such a battle. And war was not likely what so ever. Itachi simply wanted a quick way out. No one can be forced to do anything ( Force and Control are not the same ), they are always given choices, and we have seen Itachi's. Itachi is still Awesome.