Can an Officer marry an Enlisted soldier?

I've heard they can't, i heard you can't marry someone that isnt the same rank.

if that is true, then can an enlisted E-1 marry an enlist E-4? or is that still against regulations?

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  • 8 years ago
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    People ask these sorts of questions a lot. And those who give a correct answer usually get TD'd for some reason. The short answer is NO, they can not. Linked below is the official US Army policy on the matter, which I assume is what you're interested in given your name.... If there are any doubts read it for yourself. It quotes the following as being PROHIBITED between officers and enlisted personnel. "Dating, shared living accommodations other than those directed by operational requirements, and intimate or sexual relationships between officers and enlisted personnel."

    There are a few exceptions though. Such as, "Marriages that predate the effective date of this policy or entered into prior to March 1, 2000".

    Another exception is if the two were already in such a relationship, then their status changed. They wouldn't have to divorce or anything. Example being they're both enlisted then one becomes an officer. Or one is a civilian then enters the military as an officer while their spouse/girl or boyfriend is enlisted or vice versa. There is another exception that applies only to the Reserve/National Guard. That is IF the relationship exists outside of the military it's OK. So if you were to meet someone and you both happen to be in the Guard but one is officer and one enlisted it's OK. Maybe you both work together at your day job. That's fine. But if you met through your military duties, even in the Reserves, it's prohibited. Otherwise, no it is prohibited. This fraternization policy would not apply amongst enlisted personnel, or amongst officers of different rank, unless they were in the same chain of command.

  • 5 years ago

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    Can an Officer marry an Enlisted soldier?

    I've heard they can't, i heard you can't marry someone that isnt the same rank.

    if that is true, then can an enlisted E-1 marry an enlist E-4? or is that still against regulations?

    Source(s): officer marry enlisted soldier: https://shortly.im/l659d
  • 8 years ago

    Current DoD policy - across the board - is that Enlisted and Commissioned can not have a personal relationship.

    If a mixed couple should keep their relationship a secret and marry, then one of them must leave the service. When the policy first came out, there were quite a few mixed couples - but no new ones.

    There is nothing that says you have to be the same rank - just that you can't be enlisted and officer.

    If you marry someone who is in your direct chain of command (i.e.: a Platoon Sergeant marrying a Soldier in his platoon), then one of you will be moved somewhere else.

  • Yvella
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    There are regulations and local policies may effect it too, but in general:

    1) Officers and Enlisted cannot date (even across branches of service).

    2) There are limitations for enlisted on dating someone IN you chain of command. For example a team leader dating one of his Soldiers in his team. Even if they were E4 and E1. This is true for not just dating, but fraternization in general.

    3) There may be local policies where they don't want dating in the same company or battalion for example, but it really comes down to rule 2 mainly.

    There are a few exceptions on the officer/enlisted dating, but it has to do with Active Duty vs drilling National Guard, it depends on the relationship. Then there is a grandfather clause for people who were married before a certain date.

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  • Yes, enlisted CAN marry officer. Of an investigation is done there can be no evidence of a sexual relationship, dating, or cohabitating. You can not be reprimanded for marriage, but any other circumstance falls under fraternization and is subject to UCMJ.

    Source(s): Been there, done that
  • 7 years ago

    (2) Dating, shared living accommodations other than those directed by operational requirements, and intimate or sexual relationships between officers and enlisted personnel. This prohibition does not apply to—

    "(d) Personal relationships between members of the Regular Army and members of the National Guard or Army Reserve when the relationship primarily exists due to civilian association and the Reserve component member is not on active duty (other than annual training), on full-time National Guard duty (other than annual training), or serving as a

    dual status military technician."

    If party is a reservist and not an ACTIVE reservist the date away..

  • 4 years ago

    Fraternization Army

  • 8 years ago

    I Googled what the UCMJ says about this, and this is what I found.

    Basically it varies between branches and there are gray areas. If you're married it's not considered fraternization, but my question is how do you court?

    "Fraternization is an Article 134 offense prohibiting commissioned and warrant officers from having unduly familiar relationships with enlisted members. It can also result in Non-Judicial Punishment (NJP) disciplinary actions under Article 15. The implementing guidelines allow the branches to apply “frat” to enlisted members of different ranks and officers of different ranks, if the relationship is prejudicial to good order and discipline. Fraternization includes both sexual/romantic and business relationships, and applies regardless of the gender of the members involved. The offense is punishable under Article 92 (Failure to obey order or regulation) with maximum punishment of “dismissal, forfeiture of all pay and allowances, and confinement for 2 years.”

    Not all contact or association between seniors and subordinates is fraternization; the key is “whether the conduct has compromised the chain of command, resulted in the appearance of partiality, or otherwise undermined good order, discipline, authority, or morale.” For example, “dating, shared living accommodations, intimate or sexual relations, commercial solicitations, private business partnerships, gambling and borrowing money between officers and enlisted members, regardless of service, are unduly familiar and are prohibited.”

    Each branch has its own policies governing fraternization. In the Air Force and Army regulations, fraternization only applies to officer-enlisted relationships. In the Navy, Chief Petty Officers (E-7 through E-9) may be punished for having a personal relationship with E-1 through E-6 enlisted members in their chain of command. Similarly, in the Marines, NCOs can be charged with fraternization for an improper relationship with a subordinate.

    Generally, marriage “cures” fraternization. In other words, an officer who is legally married to an enlisted member cannot be charged with fraternization for conduct occurring after the marriage. For LBG service members, it is important to understand that a marriage to someone of the same sex will not “cure” the frat because DOMA prevents that marriage from being recognized as valid. Legally married dual-military gay couples will remain vulnerable to fraternization charges until DOMA is repealed or the Fraternization provisions are changed.

    Two things should be kept in mind. First, fraternization does not require a sexual relationship. Second, the standard — “whether the conduct has compromised the chain of command, resulted in the appearance of partiality, or otherwise undermined good order, discipline, authority, or morale” — is a subjective one. These two facts can make service members vulnerable to accusations of fraternization even where there was no improper conduct. They could also cause accusations against a service members mentoring person of a lesser rank. If an individual is out to get a service member because of his or her sexual orientation, an allegation of fraternization may be a relatively easy way to do it."

  • ?
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    http://usmilitary.about.com/od/justicelawlegislati...

    Here is the jist of it along with links to the individual services policies. As a rule no they can not, however there are exceptions. (ie were married prior to one receiving a Commission...)

    As far as Enlisted - Enlisted, perception is everything along with a persons definition of "Violates Good Order and Discipline".... The policy can be kind of subjective, but if either is in the others Chain of Command, it is bad joo-joo.

    Source(s): Retired Navy
  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    no, commissioned officers can not marry enlisted personnel in the same branch of the armed forces. but it does happen A lot. enlisted personnel can marry any other rank of enlisted personnel, however it would violate regulation for any member of the armed forces to be in a position of authority over their spouse. so if army guy a is an e-1 and wants to marry his platoon sgt. army guy b, then one of them would have to transfer to another unit.

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