same boat as you, dude. got depression as a result. Imo guys like us who cannot ever be considered an "alpha male" in the eyes of a female just have to take every opportnity we can to socialize and just wait life out. That's just the way it is. No beating around the bush, our personalities are simply not as impressionable as the average bloke. Only on the complete off-shoot occasion that we might have an in-depth conversation with a female, do we start to become attractive. It may take you the rest of your life trying to find this, and watch your friends and colleagues go through girl after girl. But that's the chaos of life my friend. However you must understand that everything is nature had an equilibrium. Karma does exist. We're not very good at attracting women buy I bet you have some outstanding personal qualities like I do. All those guys you see out there raking in girls are, most likely, deeply unhappy even without knowing it. Because extroverts require a little from everyone around them to be happy. Instead of us, who want more from individuals. Hence the guys who rake in the chicks are never truly happy as they can't ever obtain anything truly meaningul. They have a higher probablility of making an impression upon a girl in the first 5 minutes and taking her home. We have a higher probability of creating a bond and connection between personalities through emotion etc. and are thus more likely to have long-term serious relationships and not much dating. That's the way we are. We have to put on a bit of a mask in the first moments of meeting a girl, in order to appear and act a little bit extroverted and therefore raise the chance of making a good impression. But our advantage, is that once the girl is "hooked" or posing an interest in you ( which it appears, like me, no one has) it is so much more likely that we can attract them with our personality and form a connection. So you have to ask - would you rather a lifetime of meaningless flings or would you rather 2 - 4 serious long term relationships? If it is the latter, then keep doing what you're doing. A girl is guaranteed to come along eventually. If you want a bit more action tho, then like i said before you need to adopt a bit of an extroverted mask.