At what age, or under what circumstances, should a young adult child living at home be expected to pay rent?

I'm asking the question in this category because some or most of you here have likely dealt with this situation. My daughter works full-time at one job, part-time at another, and is on call for an occasional 'as needed' shift with a staffing agency. She is also taking classes (as her schedule... show more I'm asking the question in this category because some or most of you here have likely dealt with this situation.

My daughter works full-time at one job, part-time at another, and is on call for an occasional 'as needed' shift with a staffing agency. She is also taking classes (as her schedule permits ... right now, just one) toward her BSN degree, with plans to pursue a MSN and possibly continue her education beyond that.

She is 23. She makes good money, but has no real savings, as yet. She's no financial burden on us (pays for her car and related expenses, her college courses, and pays for anything she personally needs or wants), and we can easily afford to absorb the cost of the groceries, water, electricity, etc., that she consumes.

But she also does not contribute ... doesn't help with cooking or cleaning or home maintenance, and does not contribute to the family budget. She's busy, so I don't really expect her to vacuum the lampshades (!), but I think she could either be doing more, or paying something to live here.

I'm not trying to push her out, and to be honest ... I will miss her when she leaves. She wants to get her own place, but knows she's not quite ready just yet ... Any advice?

Thank you!
Update: I guess I overstated 'does not contribute' ... My kids have long been responsible for their rooms, their bathroom, their things and their pets. They've done their own laundry since they were wearing Garanimals. I was referring to more general housekeeping tasks (empty the dishwasher, take out the... show more I guess I overstated 'does not contribute' ... My kids have long been responsible for their rooms, their bathroom, their things and their pets. They've done their own laundry since they were wearing Garanimals.

I was referring to more general housekeeping tasks (empty the dishwasher, take out the trash, clean the basement, yardwork, etc.). It's a big house and a big piece of land ... takes a lot of time and work to keep up with it all.

And no ... my daughter is in no way 'princess-y', nor does she ever act entitled. She has worked very hard (2 and sometimes 3 jobs at once since age 16) and has always excelled at school. Aside from a bit of a tendency to procrastinate (which she *may* have inherited from mom!), she has an outstanding work ethic and is already well-established in her career. Extremely proud of this kid.
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