boyfriend on porn website?

My boyfriend left his email open on my laptop and though I shouldn't have, I went through it. I found a message under the spam with the subject "hot russian girls" and it was an email telling him how to sign in it said his email and a random mix up of letters and numbers as the password so I'm sure he didn't make the password himself. I know a lot of people get this kind of spam but it said "***PLEASE NOTE: This message may accidentally appear in your 'junk' mailbox, please

hit the 'Not Spam' button above, move this message to your inbox, or copy & paste the

link into your browser." Him and I have talked about him doing this before he said he used to but didn't anymore but he had a few times when we were together earlier in our relationship (We've been together 9 months) and he told me one day and apologized, he was crying and I could tell he was honestly sorry. He really is a great guy and really honest but I don't really know how to bring it up to him and I feel like he would deny it anyway. I just wanted to know if this is the kind of website that would send people spam like that or not?

the link is: http://join.considentire.com/pvvnibzxjtkwsf82nm

I followed it already but I don't really know how to tell if it would send spam or not

I'm also skeptical because I dont know why he would sign up for this type of one

and I know a lot of girls don't care if their boyfriend looks at porn but I do.

Thank you!!

Update:

Also this wasn't the same website he was on before

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  • 7 years ago
    Best Answer

    Whether or not he should be looking at porn and whether or not you should let it upset you is a whole different issue. But I can tell you this: That email does not mean that your boyfriend has visited that porn site or any porn site recently. Once an email address ends up on a spam list it stays on there forever also many of these sites will pull address lists from non-porn lists, especially the "hot Russian girls" type of sites because those are less about the porn and more about trying to scam victims out of money by claiming that these girls "want to meet you". The "this is not spam" claim is just a trick they use to make the email seem more believable. So, I would suggest that you don't worry about it, and don't even mention it to your boyfriend because it's more than likely just from an old email list. Also I would suggest that you work on your trust issues. I mean, not only did you open this email, you followed the link included and now you're here trying to investigate it further.

  • 7 years ago

    First of all, by opening the email (* which they have tracking on--that you cant see)

    Youve just verified his address to these people...and now they will sell it to other spammers

    It said, this might appear in your junk mail..so all the rest of their junk mail will go to the

    inbox & probably whoever else, they sell the address to.

    You might have put a virus on his computer going to the site

    Those kind of sites do things like that

    The site was just created on Feb 1--- theyre spamming people to get business

    on their site. There's very small chance your boyfriend found this on his own

    They dont have enough traffic to be high up on any search

    Creation date: 01 Feb 2013 16:00:06

    Expiration date: 01 Feb 2014 16:00:00

    Have a little trust in the guy.

    Dont you dare tell you were snooping

    or this trust issue will backfire back on you, big time..

    Its called a "personal" computer for a reason.

    Im not clicking on the link you posted... it could be dangerous considering

    the integrity of the person who would put up a site like this.

  • Lava
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    Get a dog if you want a man you can neuter. You not being able to handle your boyfriend masturbating to porn is YOUR problem, it should not be his. So not only are you an insecure harpy that thinks she has a right to control every orgasm her boyfriend has, but you're also a snoop.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Many people get spam like that, it doesn't mean he watches it. I got a lot of spam from similar website when I never used to watch porn.

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  • 7 years ago

    I can see how you can be concerned but be careful about going through his stuff. Its true that we should have a open relationship but you Dont want to know everything, trust me. We are all human and we all make mistakes, the most faithful spouses do/think/say things that they should from time to time. If hes trying to get rid of it, and hes making resonable progress. Let him be, if not then you will over pressure him and that could break the relationship.

  • 7 years ago

    I get spam daily from women (actually spambots) who have decided to write me because they "know" they're interested in me and that we can have a "meaningful relationship".

    I post these letters to my Facebook account, with the response I'd like to send which is usually some variation of, "That's great, and thanks for writing -- but do you have a brother with a beard and a hairy chest because I'd really rather talk to HIM about a relationship!"

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    He's a boy. Let him watch porn.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    First of all, it's not a big deal if he does. Second of all, you should have never betrayed his trust and gone through his laptop. Third of all, it sounds like it could be spam. But honestly, you have no right to make a big deal out of his "flaws" when you clearly have a few of your own.

  • 7 years ago

    I would ask him nonchalantly if he watches porn, and then bring up how you saw it in his email inbox by mistake one time when you were going too close it.

    Make sure he's honest, and tell him how you feel.

  • He's perfectly entitled to look at porn. If you don't like it, that's YOUR problem, not his.

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