Hm - just to say had to beg my ex husband to see his children once a month.
But he told everyone I was doing the "keeping away" - it's a handy and easy lie, I discovered, I couldn't defend myself because I didn't want to hurt my children.
Edit: Woody - there are evil women and there are evil men. I can only speak from my own experience and the experiences of those around me. Power games.
I know men who say things like: if you don't do as I say, I won't see the children.
I am quite happy to believe that there are women who say: If you don't do as I say, you won't see the children.
But those with a stronger bond with their children are less likely to want to hurt them. No matter how angry I was at my ex husband, I would not want him to lose contact with his children. It would take something really bad (physical abuse, violence, drugs, drink, etc) to try and remove them from his influence.
Most people who care for their children are like that. A person who does not put their children first, should not have custody of those children.
On the other hand, people are too quick to condemn mothers. I tend to listen very carefully to both sides of the story.
Edit Edit: Woody - I chose a man - I didn't choose a father for my children. I thought he was a good fun-loving guy. He wanted children. There was nothing to show that this was a mistake. We had sex, I got pregnant.
Do not try to blame me for being a single mother. I did not walk away from my children.