Your son is *supposed* to be very attached to you. That is how he will learn to be attached-later-to someone else.
He does not know that he is not the center of your universe. He has no idea about housework, "me time", or anything else. He only knows that when he is with you, it feels right, and when he is not with you-even if you are in another room-it feels "wrong". He has no idea that you would like him to take a bottle, and sees no reason to do it. Why should he want to put this strange thing in his mouth and use a different suck, that takes different muscles and delivers milk a different way and with a different taste, when he can have you, your arms, your warmth, and the familiarity of being with you and at the breast?
You might enjoy getting out with your baby to a "mommy and me" group, a story hour at the library (yes, they have them for babies), or any place else that you can have time with other young mothers and their babies. Perhaps on a weekend, you can have 2 hours or so to do something on your own; a haircut, manicure, some shopping, or even a movie. Maybe his dad or another relative can take him for a walk or other outing.
If he can sleep for 2 or more hours without breastfeeding, he will not starve if he is away from you for that length of time, even if he refuses a bottle. He may not be happy, and he might cry until you return, but it will probably not be from hunger.
He will not be so little and needy forever. As a matter of fact, I guarantee that you won't believe how fast the first year goes by, and then the next. Please be patient with your little boy, and allow him this time to be a baby and rely on you. You are the center of his wold, and he thinks he is the center of yours.
For more information about normal infant development, sleep, and attachment, go to the ParentingScience website.
hospital IBCLC and mothers' group leader 20+ years
mom to 3