Daughter Confused About Fathers Girlfriend?
My daughter is almost three. She is very talkative and bright. Recently she came home from her fathers during his visitation claiming she was very sad. When I asked her what was wrong, she told me that her daddy had said that I wasn't her mommy. I then continued to ask her who was. She turned to me and said Kayla. This women is her fathers new girlfriend. Furious I called him right away to talk to him about this situation. He confirmed that yes he had told her this, because he wanted our daughter to love his girlfriend more. This answer was rather childish to me. Months before this we had finalized our custody agreement in our state of Indiana. I was given sole custody and he was given only one overnight and one three hour during the week. When we went to court, the issue of the girlfriend was brought up. They had been doing this confusing stuff to our daughter since day one of them dating. The judge was furious at the fact they were trying to confuse my daughter. He had admitted this in court as well and said he didn't see what the big deal was. The judge had told him that he was no longer allowed to have the girlfriend around, because he isn't grown up enough to handle a relationship around our child. This rule was not added in our agreement and he has continued to pull his crap. What can I do. This is really hurting our daughter psychologically and she cries now when she goes to her dads and says she doesn't like Kayla. Is there anything I can do??? I can't bare to see my daughter like this. I try to reassure her but he continues to tell her these things. I have tried to talk to him, but he refuses to listen.
- Serene ELv 78 years agoFavorite Answer
sigh..........you have no control over what he says to his daughter. You have no control over who he has over at his house when your daughter is there. You have no control over his discipline of his daughter and you have no control over anything else he does. The judge didn't put it in because he couldn't. It's not part of the custody/child support or visitation arrangements he can make.
This is what happens when parents break up and the children are shuffled back and forth between parents. You had more control over the raising of your daughter if you had stayed together. Sorry. Sorry you picked an immature guy to date, sorry you got prego by a jerk, sorry for your child most of all.
- Anonymous4 years ago
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