Sikhs: A few questions regarding becoming Amritdhari...?
My questions are:
1. What are the rules on makeup after becoming Amritdhari? I found references to 'mehendi' and people have extrapolated that on their own to mean all forms of makeup... but is it specifically forbidden to wear a bit of lip gloss and eye makeup once in awhile?
2. Jewelry?? I know 'pierced' earrings are not allowed (it was explained to me the reason was that slaves at the time had piercings) But what about a necklace or a ring etc? I have some family heirlooms that mean a lot to me, and would like to still wear them.
3. Head covering... for a man a turban is necessary in the Rehat Maryada... but 'optional' for a woman. Does my hair still need to be covered at all times though (in public etc)? I find a chunni to be VERY tricky even while at the Gurdwra as I am incessantly having to readjust it from falling off my head. I can't imagine having to deal with every day life and having to manage a chunni at all times. For that reason, if head needs to be covered 24/7 then I plan to wear a dastar... if I can learn to tie one! Like the round style most women who wear them tie. Trouble is, 99% of women don't wear them! At the Gurdwara I go to... only 1 or 2 women wear a dastar and the rest just chunni. There are a hand full of Anritdhari women there too.... they just seem to manage with a chunni. But they are all older and Punjabi. The few that tie dastars are younger like me. But me being in a serious minority being a white convert.... how would people take it if I started to wear a dastar??? Would I be seen as 'silly' or something? Or would people see that I am serious about my adopted religion? I should mention I already wear punjabi suits to the Gurdwara and nobody says anything (except for compliments) and we have a white male Sikh who is Amritdhari and wears a turban, and he is very prominent in Canadian politics and well known. Nobody says anything about him (or another white guy there) who wear turbans. SO what if I do as a female white convert??? What do you think the reaction would be?
My reasons for wanting to wear a turban are: It is supposed to be all Sikhs to wear a turban is it not? (as described in the SGGSJ) it doesn't specify 'only male Sikhs' Also, without one, since I am not Punjabi, people would never know I am Sikh unless I tell them, most would never know what a kara is and think I am just wearing a bracelet. But if I wear a turban, it would be an outward statement to everyone that I am proud to be a Sikh.