Are one-nighters, for women, typically driven by low self-esteem?

The general consensus of a survey of men regarding their satisfaction of one nighters was that the sex generally wasn't fulfilling but there was a lot of it.

If this is the case for the men, what more could be the case for the women, given their batteries take longer to charge and the men are engaging sex for their own pleasure not that of the women.

And ladies, don't tell me its bc you're drunk or stoned--you get that way to make the process easier not the other way round. Now sober, can you face that you simply wanted attention? But now you've got herpes. And a fck trophy that your parents will raise while you seek more attention. Just face the fact that you're ugly inside or out. It could be permanent, yes.

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  • 7 years ago
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    When it comes to one-nighters, men and women are poles apart as far as their goals, motivations, and expectations are concerned.

    As you said, most men who look for one-night stands are in it for the sex - and they usually have no qualms about admitting to it.

    On the other hand, women who seek one-night stands, go to bed with the false impression of flattery and a craving for feeling desirable. It's more than the conquest - it's the gooey, self-aggrandizing feeling of knowing that a man has found them desirable.

    Beyond that, what motivates women into going for one-nighters over and over?

    They could be collecting healthy genes for their offspring. So even if a woman can't score a lengthy relationship with a guy whose sperm could offer, say, disease-resistant genes or genes for a particular kind of intelligence, her thinking might be, "Why not grab the guy for sex?"

    "If you've got a Brad Pitt character - absolutely gorgeous and incredibly loaded with money and so on - the chances of getting him to commit himself to you for the rest of your life are pretty slim," Campbell said. "But the chances of him giving you a half an hour on a Wednesday afternoon in a hotel are probably much better."

    http://www.livescience.com/2678-realities-night-st...

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  • Erika
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    3 years ago

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  • 7 years ago

    I think it depends on the culture and sub culture the woman comes from. Some women are genuinely sexually liberated and have one night stands because they enjoy sex, and some women have them for the reasons that you stated. and I can raise my own fck trophy thank you very much, I just leave him with my parents when I have a painful herpes outbreak.

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  • 7 years ago

    I used to love the gay scene in my twenties because of its easygoing attitude to one night stands and no-strings flings

    There is a confusion in the hetero world re casual sexual encounters.

    Some people who enjoy casual sex have very high self esteem otherwise they wouldn't have the confidence to do it.

    It's not a cut and dried gender issue either.

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  • 7 years ago

    Or they just want to have sex. Sex is a very personal thing and definitely isn't as enjoyable when it's with a random person that you don't know and love.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Typically driven by horniness.

    Yeeeah...that's about the gist of it.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Um, no. Why does sex have to have some kind of deep motivation for women... they just want to get laid.

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  • 7 years ago

    curiosity, impaired judgement due to alcohol, lust, trying to see how many men they can get..

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