I'm calling troll. A real adoptive family would discuss this with their social worker, not broadcast it on the internet, & they definitely wouldn't share the potential birth mother's name. I'm also not buying it that youre "not prejudiced at all," if that was true you wouldn't be having such a problem with the idea of adopting a child that didn't look like you, & a social worker would never approve a family who planned to never tell their child they were adopted. And the whole stepfather thing puts it over the top, especially the part about the mother being more upset about the baby being biracial than the possibility of her husband raping her daughter! Nice supportive mother. You're ok with adopting an incest baby, but not a biracial one?
Go back under your bridge