You're an idiot.
I'm Scandinavian-American as is my husband. We have two pasty Scandinavian children and one with copper-red hair and bronze skin, brown eyes. There is rumor of Native American on my husband's side, and I don't know who my bio-dad is, therefore it could have come from me. It didn't come from me cheating or anything. He is our son. He is his dad's little buddy.
Even if the baby had come out blonde, you'd still be telling him he is adopted. You can't hide that form him.
If a baby doesn't "fit in with our plans" then don't adopt! You're not getting a doll -- this is a HUMAN BEING! If you can't "love" a baby who doesn't look like it flew out of your hoo-ha, then you have no business being an adopter.
You don't know that even a pasty baby would have fit in with your family. You don't know that she couldn't have had a white in-bred baby that was brunette. After all, brown hair and eyes are dominant, so you and your husband could have a brunette baby anyway and people would look at you all funny.
At this point, I suppose you should find another adoptive family for her baby. I actually know a couple if you are in the Midwest. One is a blonde couple in Wisconsin who already has two boys they adopted from Africa, one is a blonde couple from Iowa who adopted a baby girl from Africa, one is a Blonde/Brunette (MIXED!!!!) couple from Iowa who has one son who's 3 and wants to adopt a baby. One is a family in Iowa (both brunette parents) who has three blonde biological children, one brunette adopted teen, two Asian adopted sons, two blonde adopted little daughters, and a Down's syndrome baby boy. Yes, that is NINE. They can fit in one more and a black baby boy is just what would round out their family.
If you're too stupid to make a family from an adopted child and rely only on looks, then don't flippin adopt.
What does your pastor think of all this nonsense? Does he consider this child a precious creation of God or is he like you?
But talk to the adoption lawyer and they can find someone quickly I'm sure.
Guess what? I'm 6'1" and Swedish-American by birth and my adopted father's side. But my Scottish-Greek mother's family was all 5'8" and perfectly proportioned and treated me like I was a gigantic Viking freak. Even blondes can face discrimination by family. You're one of the worst people ever.