Do I have a sexual addiction?
I'm a 14 year old male.
I masturbate very often, 5-7 times a day on average. I also watch alot of porn.
Whats wierd is that I have no wants for sex or a relationship, and have way more control over myself than many other guys my age.
I also think that I should put out there that I have taken the SAST (Sexual Addiciton Screening Test) and scored an 8 on it.
I don't know what is wrong with me. Is anything wrong with me? Is it normal to have this at my age?
- JimLv 68 years agoFavorite Answer
I am going to preface my remarks by stating this is my *opinion* but... It's backed by many others in the mental health community... There is no readily definable sexual condition that fits the criteria for "addiction." An addiction is the bodies dependency on a chemical substance.
O.K. so now you have two widely varying opinions about what is and what isn't an addiction. So what exactly ARE your issues? Many competent mental health professionals would say you have behavioral issues around sex, but not an addiction.
So far they haven't really been able to nail it down that precisely. And there are still many opinions as to whether or not ANYTHING about sex can become addictive. Behavioral issues? Certainly.
Unfortunately our media and certain "pseudo" doctors and TV celebrity types just love nothing better than to hype anything and everything to do with sex. Sometimes with very little scientific evidence to back their claims.
Now while it's perfectly normal for young males to engage in self pleasuring a LOT... If you're becoming concerned, you may want to consider modifying your behavior. If you seem to have difficulty doing that? Then you may want to seek out counseling.
Here's what I would consider to be a reasonable criteria:
If you are engaging in sexual behavior to the exclusion of all other activities then you might have a problem. If you're not getting your schoolwork or chores done, if you're not getting outside or doing other things you normally like to do? Again... You might have a problem. If you seem to have great difficulty changing your habits? You might have a problem.
David, try not to let all the hype scare you. But... Try to be sensible and if you really think you are in need of help? Then don't be shy about asking for it.Source(s): San Francisco Sex Information Trained Sex Educator, Years of Experience
- CharlesLv 58 years ago
Let me preface what I'm about to say by letting you know that before I retired, I worked as a psychologist and was a Certified Sexual Addiction Therapist (C.S.A.T.), so I've worked with a lot of sex addicts over the years. If you scored an 8 on the S.A.S.T., you are definitely NOT a sex addict, at least not at this time. Generally, you need to score 11 or higher on this test before you can be said to have a sexual addiction. However, a score of 8 for a 14-year-old is a bit irregular, and I'm worried that you may be setting yourself up for a sexual addiction somewhere down the road.
You might want to read a book titled, "Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction", by Patrick J. Carnes, Ph.D. This is a basic text on sexual addiction, and it will give you some of the background you see in sex addicts, as well as tell you some of the warning signs to watch for. This is probably the best book out there for outlining the basics of this disease.
You might also want to take a look at a couple of websites:
Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health
Both of these sites contain lots of information about sexual addiction and recovery, including information on the various Twelve Step groups (similar to Alcoholics Anonymous) which exist for sex addicts. (Sexaholics Anonymous, Sex Addicts Anonymous, Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, and Sexual Compulsives Anonymous). Although you can't attend an "in-person" meeting until you are at least 18-years-old, you can join a telephone group or an online meeting, and information on both of these kinds of groups can be found on the websites. And you can also find information about the Certified Sexual Addiction Therapists here if you feel it might be beneficial to talk with someone.
Now while what you are doing is normal for a 14-year-old young man (watching pornography and masturbating), you might want to limit how often you engage in such behaviors. As an additional source of help for you, consider joining one of the online support communities. I can recommend two such organizations:
Both communities have support groups for sexual addiction, and they might be able to help you curb your desire to watch porn and masturbate.
- justineLv 44 years ago
Definite, I definitely believe in sexual dependancy, simply as I consider in many different addictions. And, those with these addictions most likely can to find serving Jehovah a wrestle from time to time (do not we all?). Jehovah WILL help all who need to serve him, no dependancy too robust ! I do consider, nonetheless, that many use the term "dependancy" as an excuse for bad behavior. Many reside a tradition that to them is entertaining, empowering, or or else psychologically important, and makes then feel excellent(like plenty of intercourse, its like a drug excessive). When caught or wondered they declare dependancy, when relatively it used to be only a existence variety alternative. I do know my use of the phrase "drug excessive" is going to make some point and say "see, it is an addiction". However in reality that the majority would change in a immediate in the event that they desired to, so its simply unhealthy behavior on their phase. Once more, sure, I very a lot think in sexual addiction. However, I think, to make a guesstimate, perhaps one man or woman in ten who claims to be a sex addict relatively is a sex addict.
- Anonymous8 years ago
Take it easy on the porn, you're over stimulating yourself. Sooner or later no one and nothing will be able to turn you on because you wouldve seen it all!
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- Ask DatukgongLv 68 years ago
that is wrong, if you keep on going at that rate, by your 30s you will need a viagra for the rest of your life, it is normal to do it once just before sleep
- Mr.No0nELv 78 years ago
Yes you do have a sexual addiction, and your fooling yourself if you think you have more control over it than many other guys.
- Anonymous8 years ago
You're going through puberty, and everyone has different masturbation preferences
- 8 years ago
its just a phase.
- 8 years ago
Your gay, tell your parents...they'll accept you for YOU.