I left the forum for some time and back again, this was happening than and still happening now.
Don't be mistaken that it's just the young or inexperience who are pulled into these phonies ploy. That would be a big mistake. These phonies they take advantage of our weaknesses -- using flattery often, seeing our loneliness, insecurity, poor health. a want to fit in, to be liked, to be thought of as special, status, our want to be helpful, or simple ignorance. The only thing more important to these con artist phonies than perfecting a con is getting what he or she wants. It's their own pride and selfishness that motivates them
I knew a few who wanted to befriend me just to get me away from others they didn't like.
They aren't usually a shady-looking or sounding character. These phonies from experience are expert at looking however they needs to look or sound. That they learn well in life.
The bible tells us not to look at the outside how someone looks or sounds but to look deep inside. Their values and sincerity to Godly things and ways. Yet shallowly we forget this advise. Take for instance Obama (not getting political here just an example as most know who he is) He won a bit on being a good talker not because of his experience or his character. He would have lost if we were judging on those right things. Most in office would not have been there if people judged on real character and the values they have showed.
Moses knew some wouldn't listen to him just because he didn't talk well. Yet people seem to forget he did have wisdom and better reasoning ability than most.
King David, many didn't want as king at first, he wasn't impressive enough for the people. Yet God found his heart to be right.
I'm a boss of several business, many kiss up to me, and try to impress me, with things perhaps like their education (and I have know some good talking educated idiots). I'm not taken in easy. And I find I don't care for them much.. And I'm not out to impress anyone neither. We don't need to be "putting on airs" to appear nicer, more caring, smart. If we are all that it will show in our reasoning ability. In the way we act. To often I have seen someone with ego and feels he is intelligent will point out flaws in others who don't speak or write as a lack of intelligence, when it isn't. (I myself have a Secretary who does that for me, except for here, and she is smart as a whip there and I would hate to be without her, but she doesn't care to make the quick decisions I must often. Together we are a good team both with strengths and weaknesses. I think the bible mentions that too with those in the faith, together one plants, one waters)
Long words, deep philosophies may sound more intelligent at time to some, but they’re not necessarily the best choice when trying to communicate effectively or of judging one's character. Shows of caring doesn't mean caring, the Pharisee made big shows of devotion.
But phonies love image and that's a good sign to spot one. And they will give what you like if you return what they like. And when you stop than often things change. It's a bad choice to cater in any way to them
One should use discernment there are many who are false friends. Why waste our time with them?
And I'm going to add sometimes I look to see who ones friends/contacts are if possible. Rather I care to even listen much to what they say might depend some on that. Although Jesus may have called the sinners to him to repent, he didn't hang around long with them waiting for them to change. A man's growth is seen in the successive choirs of his friends. Why anyone would keep some that they do or add some as friends makes me wonder about them. I start seeing some picking up with phonies or flamers I wonder whats going on in their life that they need this. And I start to wonder if their even worth listening to much.
· 7 years ago