Why can't I get attendance allowance for my husband.?
I am unable to leave him for a second, he has great difficulty in using the stairs, dressing, showering etc. and I have to be in earshot of him in case he needs help so I sit on the stairs whilst he has finished. He does absolutely nothing in the house, we have had to employ gardeners and handymen to do jobs for us.
I am up 4/5 times a night because of his coughing and him being unable to breathe and I have been shown by the Physio in hospital how to massage his back to releave the breathlessness.
He has to use a urinal in order to lessen the times he has to use the toilet, we have hand rails and disabiliy chairs in the bathroom so he can sit down when he has showered,
We are in the throws of getting a stairlift and having a downstairs toilet installed and buying a mobility scooter all out of our own savings (and we only have our pensions) to enable us to get out of the house, as when he is sat down he is fine, apart from a couple or coughing do's.
This year he has had pneumonia twice with an ambulance coming and going with 'blue lights'.
I have applied for Attendance Allowance which they have refused and a blue badge to enable him to park nearer shops which they have refused. We have not been out of the house since before christmas 2011 apart from Hospital visits and doctors visits when we have to hire a taxi to take us there and bring us home because of the distance we have to walk. when we get there we have to get a wheelchair for him.
I am 70 years of age and get no help at all, my sons live away and my daughters-in-law work and have children to look after so there is no-one to sit with him so I can take a break.
I am so very distressed and upset that we are getting no help at all and having to use our savings to keep the house heated 24 hours a day and with the bad weather this summer it is costing us a fortune in electricity.
So can someone tell me why we cannot get anything at all when I see people walking about, cutting grass and parking in disabled spots who can climb out of their car and run across the road to the bank.
I have appealed against the decision annd have demanded someone come to our home to see for themselves just what a damned mess we are in.