Am i a bad person in this situation...?

My now ex girlfriend of 5 years, had lied to me and said she was pregnant... about 7 or 8 times... so i got sick of it and broke it off w/ her. i started talking to another girl and am now dating her and apparently my ex is pregnant for real this time from the last time her and i had sex... she went to the hospital and she is about 10 or 11 weeks. i dont want to go back to her because i am w/ my girlfriend and i dont want to be w/ my ex anymore. and my gf said she will support whatever desicion i make... and my ex said she wont make me child support (her parents will help pay for it i guess), but she told me all she wants is me back...

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  • 9 years ago
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    That's a little messed up. The fact that she's lied about it so many times is already just sickening. Tell your ex you will help support the child and what not if she ever needs it. But remember, the child will grow up without a father. So it;s really your choice.

  • 9 years ago

    Isn't it a bit soon (a couple months?) to be in another serious relationship ? Just asking... or is your new girlfriend just a casual dating thing? I think anyone who breaks up from a close relationship needs to take TIME OUT to get their head together before they start another serious relationship. It's time to consider your role in the deterioration of the last relationship so the same crap doesn't happen all over again in the new one. We all play a role. I'm not saying to dwell on it, but take a look at the events of the relationship and then take some time for yourself, by yourself. Most men don't do this because their idea of a break up is to find someone else right away. Not good.

    If you don't want to go back with your ex girlfriend then do not do it!!! It will simply be a set up for your personal misery. But considering the fact that she's pregnant and your life will become a bit complicated, i'd suggest taking it slow in this other relationship. Why? Because i'm sure you're emotional about the pregnancy, and that it is taking a toll on you in some way. If your emotions are caught up in the fact she's pregnant for real now, you have little-to-nothing to give to this new girl (except the grief of her having to hear about the ex, her drama and the pregnancy). it's not fair.

    Like i said, don't return to a situation which was uncomfortable in the first place.

  • 9 years ago

    Go back out with your ex, but let her know she NEEDS to take the relationship seriously this time. Besides, you wouldn't want to miss out on your son or daughters life right?

  • You need to determine paternity as she can wait up to 24 years to file for retroactive child support on you and the child can file after the age of majority. Remember the news item from last summer of the Texas Family Court Judge being ordered to pay $85,000 in retroactive child support on a child he did not know existed.


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