Why do gay/ lesbian couples take so long to propose when compared to straight couples?

Maybe its just me that thinks this. Why do think this to be the case?

-commitment issues?

- because of restrictions in doing so?

ideas/ thoughts?

Update:

i guess im speaking from own thoughts. Here in new zealand gay couples can have civil unions. There is no way this would be reverted. NZ in quite accepting of gay people and relationships. I personally would not not "marry" someone for fear of a law being reversed. You do it for the one you love and your comitment to them.

Update 2:

i guess im speaking from own thoughts. Here in new zealand gay couples can have civil unions. There is no way this would be reverted. NZ in quite accepting of gay people and relationships. I personally would not not "marry" someone for fear of a law being reversed. You do it for the one you love and your comitment to them.

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago
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    I'd ask where your statistics are for a start - an assertion is not fact.

    However if I assume this IS the case then I would think the following:

    1. A very small group of gays have the privilege of being civilly unionized (is that a word) and even less married world wide

    2. The concept of gay marriage is not just new to the straight population.

    3. I still distrust it - states have HAD gay marriage and over turned it. Why would I take the chance?

    EDIT And I am from Oz and have the same concerns. While I haven't done the checking here in the US here are the benefits we miss OUT on in a civil union versus marriage - its kind of grim:

    Status as "next-of-kin" for hospital visits and medical decisions

    Right to make a decision about last rites

    Right to make a decision about the disposal of loved ones remains

    Immigration and residency for partners from other countries

    Automatic inheritance in the absence of a will

    Crime victims recovery benefits

    Domestic violence protection orders

    Judicial protections and immunity

    Public safety officers death benefits

    Spousal veterans benefits

    Social Security

    Joint parental rights of children

    Joint adoption

    Medicare

    Joint filing of tax returns

    Wrongful-death benefits for surviving partner and children

    Bereavement or sick leave to care for partner or children

    Child support

    Joint Insurance Plans

    Tax credits including: Child tax credit, Hope and lifetime learning credits

    Deferred Compensation for pension and IRAs

    Estate and gift tax benefits

    Welfare and public assistance

    Joint housing for elderly

    Credit protection

    Medical care for survivors and dependents of certain veterans.

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