How he uses his money is his business. Maybe he does not want to help them because he wants to see them helping themselves first. I come from a wealthy family, and i am a single parent who has raised my son without much help or assistance from my family. We are both disabled , and my family lives a very good fluent life. they have many homes and travel all the time. But, I am glad they just do not give me money all the time, It feels like I have pride knowing i can make it on my own and support myself and son. It is a sad situation for a wealthy man to be in, but he chooses to spend money on charity's and larger things that can help more people. He is in his right to do whatever he wants with his income , even if it is at a sacrifice helping his own cousins.