Under what circumstances may a Fundamentalist Christian divorce and then remarry with the Church's blessing?

Isn't divorce and remarriage forbidden in the bible? It's a "for life " contract is it not?

BQ: If the bible forbids gay marriage and the bible forbids divorce and remarriage why is is OK by so many Christians to ignore one proscription but not the other?

Update:

Thank you Terry for being both astute enough and honest enough to address the issue germane to this question. To divorce AND REMARRY with the blessing of the Church was the question I asked folk to address.

Thank you for your accurate, detailed and extremely well documented answer. I would love to give you a BA on it but I have no hope the question will go the distance. However morally, the win is yours.

Now I know our Catholic brethren have a very clear biblical understanding of this issue. A writ of annulment must be issued by papal decree if remarriage within the Church is to be undertaken. It may take years and there is no guarantee that a writ will ever be issued.

But Protestants seem to vary on the matter and Fundamentalists in particular can seem downright contradictory over it - to an outsider.

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  • Terry
    Lv 5
    8 years ago
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    It ISN'T okay for Christians to divorce and remarry, but that shows you just how lightly people take their commitments! There are only a few reasons for divorce. The first reason, adultery or being unfaithful to one’s spouse. The Bible says in Matthew 19:7-9 that there are consequences to divorcing a spouse for reasons other then adultery: And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication (adultery), and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.” The second reason for divorce is if one of a married couple gets saved and the unbelieving spouse no longer wants to dwell with the saved spouse (because he/she got saved). The Bible states: “But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. (I Corinthians 7:15)” Because of this person’s conversion the spouse did not want to remain in the marriage. God says you are free to let them go and you may remarry. What if a person was an unbeliever when he got divorced and it was for an unbiblical reason and later became a Christian? What should he do? If reconciliation is an option, seek it. However, If the ex-spouse is not a Christian, he should not remarry the spouse because a believer is not to marry an unbeliever (2 Cor. 6:14). If either spouse has gotten married, remarriage is not an option either (Deut. 24:3-4; Mark 10:11-12). If the spouse has died, you are free to remarry. What if a person was a believer when he got divorced, but the reason was not adultery or abandonment, and wants to remarry someone different now what should he do? If you initiated the divorce, then you should not remarry (Matt. 5:31), However.... Reconciliation with the initial spouse should be sought with confession of sin and the request for forgiveness. If it was the spouse that left without a biblical reason, then you are free to remarry. What if a couple was divorced, married others, got divorced, and wants to become remarried to again? The Bible says that you cannot return to your first spouse after you remarried (De 24:3,4; Jer 3:1). If you have, nevertheless, already gotten married, continue in your marriage and seek the Lord's forgiveness. He will give it. What if a person was a believer when he got divorced, but the reason was not adultery or abandonment, and has already gotten married. Is he in sin?Depending on the circumstances, he may be. But he should confess his sin to the Lord and spouse and seek forgiveness from the original spouse and then he should stay married and be the best husband (or wife) he/she can be.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Sometimes, letting go seems like the easiest thing to do. But think about this: you've invested so much of your time and energy into another person; you've made a solemn promise; and you still know there's love, even if it's hiding underneath the surface. This website will show you how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, even if you're the only one trying https://tr.im/VtHvK

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  • Rick
    Lv 7
    8 years ago

    You can divorce for any immorality.

    the Bible does not forbid divorce, in fact divorce is commanded in Ezra 10, Sirach 25:26 and 1 Corinthians 5 (divorce and drive out are the same thing).

    The Bible does not prohibit gay marriage it prohibits gay sex, If what your side claims was true Christians would be trying to have homosexuals executed.

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  • D
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    There are a few cases in the New Testament where it says it would be OK to divorce. The main instance where it is OK is if the spouse was unfaithful.

    The Bible doesn't say that gay people can't get married. There are a few lists where the writer is saying these are bad things that some people do that God doesn't like. On those lists are things like same-sex relationships, as well as drunken orgies, and also included in the list is gossiping.

    So why do people pick "being gay" from the list to get grumpy about? I think it's because if you're doing those other things, you would probably agree that you're doing something bad. But if you are in a gay relationship, you might not agree that it is wrong.

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  • C T
    Lv 5
    8 years ago

    Matthew 19:9 And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery."

    [NOTE: The Greek for "sexual immorality" is "pornea", which can mean either fornication, adultery, or immorality.]

    Yes, God hates divorce, but it is allowed if there is marital unfaithfulness or if an unbelieving spouse abandons the other:

    1 Corinthians 7:15 But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.

    In any case, divorce should only be sought if one of the above criteria have been met AND serious attempts at reconciliation have failed. It is still regrettable. And nowhere does the Bible even hint that homosexual marriage is ok. It only says that homosexuality is sin (Romans 1, 1 Corinthinians 6:9, Jude 7).

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  • 8 years ago

    Not sure, but I know of one fundamentalist Christian Church that existed for some ten years or so.

    Every marriage performed there ended in divorce. Not a very good record really.

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  • 8 years ago

    The Bible is very explicit in saying divorce is acceptable, however marrying again is usually not.

    But for current fundies, you can ditch the heathen spouse if they believe in evolution or a fair tax policy, and marry someone who thinks like you.

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  • You are right.

    You will see many posts that say it is permitted if "adultery" has taken place in the marriage.

    But Matthew 19:9 actually says "fornication" and not adultery.

    Married people can not commit fornication.

    Jesus was talking about sexual impurity in the Jewish betrothal stage, not marriage.

    When you read the Book of Matthew you need to get out of modern day culture and put on your Jewish thinking cap. Read chapter one in Matthew and you will see the Jewish betrothal stage in Mary and Joseph's life. Mary was called Joseph's wife at that time yet they were not really married. J

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  • 8 years ago

    This is for all who claim to be christians:

    When discussing what the Bible says about divorce, it is important to keep in mind the words of Malachi 2:16, “I hate divorce, says the Lord God.” Whatever grounds the Bible possibly gives for divorce, that does not mean God desires a divorce to occur in those instances. Rather than asking “is ______ a grounds for divorce,” often the question should be “is _______ grounds for forgiveness, restoration, and/or counseling?”

    The Bible gives two clear grounds for divorce: (1) sexual immorality (Matthew 5:32; 19:9) and (2) abandonment by an unbeliever (1 Corinthians 7:15). Even in these two instances, though, divorce is not required or even encouraged. The most that can be said is that sexual immorality and abandonment are grounds (an allowance) for divorce. Confession, forgiveness, reconciliation, and restoration are always the first steps. Divorce should only be viewed as a last resort.

    Are there any grounds for divorce beyond what the Bible explicitly says? Perhaps, but we do not presume upon the Word of God. It is very dangerous to go beyond what the Bible says (1 Corinthians 4:6). The most frequent additional grounds for divorce that people inquire about are spousal abuse (emotional or physical), child abuse (emotional, physical, or sexual), addiction to pornography, drug / alcohol use, crime / imprisonment, and mismanagement of finances (such as through a gambling addiction). None of these can be claimed to be explicit biblical grounds for a divorce.

    That does not necessarily mean, though, that none of them are grounds for divorce which God would approve of. For example, we cannot imagine that it would be God’s desire for a wife to remain with a husband who physically abuses her and/or their children. In such an instance, the wife should definitely separate herself and the children from the abusive husband. However, even in such a situation, a time of separation with the goal of repentance and restoration should be the ideal, not necessarily immediately beginning divorce proceedings. Please understand, by saying that the above are not biblical grounds for divorce, we are definitely not saying that a man/woman whose spouse is engaging in such activities should remain in the situation. If there is any risk to self or children, separation is a good and appropriate step.

    Another way to look at this issue is to differentiate between biblical grounds for divorce and biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage. Some interpret the two biblical grounds for divorce mentioned above as the only grounds for remarriage after a divorce, but allow for divorce with no remarriage in other instances. While this is a plausible interpretation, it seems to come too close to presuming upon the Word of God. For more information, please read the following two articles:

    http://www.gotquestions.org/divorce-remarriage.htm...

    http://www.gotquestions.org/divorced-remarry.html

    In summary, what are the biblical grounds for divorce? The answer is sexual immorality and abandonment. Are there additional grounds for divorce beyond these two? Possibly. Is divorce ever to be treated lightly or employed as the first recourse? Absolutely not. God is capable of changing and reforming any person. God is capable of healing and renewing any marriage. Divorce should only occur in instances of repeated and unrepentant heinous si

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  • Anonymous
    8 years ago

    When both parties have learned to juggle hedgehogs whilst riding a unicycle balanced upon a pyramid of motorcycling kangeroos.

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