How to tell her I like her?

Alright, I am so confused about what to do it's getting unbearable. So here's the story, I went on a youth group trip to DC and I sorta hit it off with this girl. You guys said she probably likes me so I tried calling her the day after we got back, but she didn't pick up. She then texted me she was watching a movie so I said I didn't want to interrupt and it stopped there. I then called her the next day and again she didn't pick up. She texted she was watching another movie, but this time she could text. I said I'd rather call, but she then said she'd rather text. So we texted casually for a bit, but it then ended, and now here I am the next day still wanting to ask her out, but I still have no idea how. I want to ask her on the phone (texting is lame), but I get the feeling she will keep wanting to text rather than talk. I don't really see her in real life, since we go to different schools, so calling is my only option. I really like her and I really don't want to keep having these boring text conversations because that will equal friend-zoned and I don't really feel like wasting my time. I'm debating whether to just leave her a voice-mail (since she probably won't pick up again) explaining that I really like her and asking if she likes me back. I know that's pretty lame, but at this point I don't know what else to do. Any advice would be great, and I'd really appreciate it. Thanks guys, I love you!! :)


A few other things:

I'm in college and she's in high school (and no I'm not a pedo, she's less that 2 years younger than me, not a big deal.)

I checked her FB and the second day I called her, a few minutes after I first called and texted her, she posted "Ba Ba Ba Baby you've ain't seen nothing yet..." on her FB wall. Wtf does that mean? Probably unrelated, but the timing is quite coincidental.

14 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Don't listen to any of these people. Don't call her or text her for at least a few days. Once a few days passes with no contact, send her a casual text message. This is the new generation and most people her age tend to just text message (you can hold a Convo with a buch of people instead of just one).

    After a day or two of texting, ask her when you can take her out. Don't ask, "can we go out on a date." Instead ask, "when can I take you out for a dinner and a movie."

    After a couple dates based on how things are going if yoü still like her, you can tell her that. But there's no NEED to put yourself out there like that so soon and youd be placing the ball in her court.

    What you want is her. You're not gonna get her if you seem desperate. Be casual, be cool, and don't annoy her. Just have fun. She's young and you're in college that's a plus already.

    Good luck- let me know if this helped!!

    Source(s): I've never been rejected!
  • 9 years ago

    1st off, I have to agree with you. I hate texting, unless it's the only option, and a means of communicating if you can't talk on the phone. I would wait a few days, then call her again, and if she doesn't pick up, and texts you AGAIN saying she'd rather text, then just tell her in the voicemail that you'd rather talk to her over the phone, because you'd like to talk to her. Just tell her you don't really like texting that much, because you like hearing the persons voice. If she doesn't respond to that, then I wouldn't bother calling or texting again. Texting is a very bad way of communicating with people, and you can't get to know anyone that way really. Good luck.

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Hmm yeah asking someone out in a text is pretty lame..

    Find a reasonalbe excuse so you two can see eachother in person and then ask her..

    If that doesn't work you might have to leave her a voicemail.

    She's just shy to tlk to you over the phone.

    Good Luck!

  • 9 years ago

    Bleugh, I now officially hate texting after my own problems, but personally I find talking on the phone unbelievably awkward, I wouldn't even like it if it was with the guy I like. Text her asking if she wants to meet up, go to the cinema or eat out or something. If she doesn't reply or says no, she probably not interested :)

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  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Don't call right away. Text and ask if she's busy. Wait for a reply and after a couple ice breakers, say something like "there's something I need to ask you. It's important. Can I call you?" if yes, go for it. If no, don't beg, just say "well I guess I can't ask you out then..." and see how she responds.

    But of course, be sure she is single and looking for love ;)

    Best of luck, man :)

  • 9 years ago

    Tell her this in the voicemail ...

    It might not be the right time

    I might not be the right one

    But there's something about us I want to say

    Cause there's something between us anyway

    I might not be the right one

    It might not be the right time

    But there's something about us I've got to do

    Some kind of secret I will share with you

    I need you more than anything in my life

    I want you more than anything in my life

    I'll miss you more than anyone in my life

    I love you more than anyone in my life

    -" Daft Punk

    Something about us."

    If she does not budge with that and still insist on texting and most of the time refusing a simple face to face chat with you .. then buddy rather let it go ..and dont fall for .. there are too many fish in the sea to be anchored by one that does not want you.. the ocean is BIG.

    then play this song to keep you going..



    Girls, all I really want is girls

    And in the morning it's girls

    Cause in the evening it's girls

    I like the way that they walk

    And it's chill to hear them talk

    And I can always make them smile

    From White Castle to the Nile

    Back in the day

    There was this girl around the way

    She liked by home-piece M.C.A.

    He said he would not give her play

    I asked him, "Please?" he said, "You may."

    Her pants were tight and that's ok

    If she would dance I would D.J.

    We took a walk down to the bay

    I hope she'll say, "Hey me and you should hit the hay!"

    I asked her out she said, "No way!"

    I should have probably guessed their gay

    So I broke North with no delay

    I heard she moved real far away

    That was two years ago this May

    I seen her just the other day

    Jockin' Mike D. to my dismay

    Girls - to do the dishes

    Girls - to clean up my room

    Girls - to do the laundry

    Girls - and in the bathroom

    Girls, that's all I really want is girls

    Two at a time I want girls

    With new wave hairdos I want girls

    I ought to whip out my girls, girls, girls, girls, girls

    Source(s): Girls
  • Anonymous
    9 years ago

    Maybe she's just not a phone person but text her and ask her if she's busy or watching a movie because you wanna talk to her about something important.... if she says no that she doesnt wanna talk on thhe phone or something then you should just let it go and move on

  • 9 years ago

    You seem really sweet. And baby if she doesn't want u someone else will. She probably enjoys texting some people find it easier to communication that way. Just keep trying to talk to her.

  • 9 years ago

    I hate texting haha :D

    Try calling her again, but so not bug her. Email her or even better talk to her in PERSON!

    I don' know, maybe she is scared a little or doesn't want to start off so fast :)

  • 4 years ago

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