Anonymous asked in Social ScienceGender Studies · 9 years ago

Madonna/ Whore complex?

I was chatting up at the gym with people. They were talking about this guy at our gym, Bob, who has a lot of affairs with ladies there recently divorced, remarried quickly, but is still bugging his ex wife. My hubby is best friends with Bob. He told me that Bob has something called Madonna/Whore complex. Basically, Bob was married to this lady who he could only have sex with if they were going to have a baby otherwise he felt ashamed. He felt guilty if he was attracted to her otherwise. They went to counseling to no avail. The wife understand Bob's complex, didn't make herself attractive, and let Bob do his affairs. Bob compensated his wife with his love, loyalty, and vacations. After about a decade, the wife realizes she needed more and asked for a divorce. After filing for divorce, the wife had a brief fling, and Bob flipped out!

My question is how common is this complex. We see it society to some extent, but for a man not to be able to engage in sex with his wife for fun is strange.

4 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    madonna / whore complex is not women acting as a whore in the bedroom and lady in public. it is men classifying women as either a sexless madonna or a complete whore. it isn't uncommon, in a diluted form, but i have never heard of it to such an extent (except by psycho-killers on tv). it usually pops up before marriage and ruins the relationship before it gets that far.

    tangently, recently divorced women are an excellent target for fun only relationships. one knows that they have been recently dealing with a sub par partner and they are easily impressed with less effort than one might think would be required.

  • Nova
    Lv 6
    9 years ago

    Well this is two different questions.

    1. Your friend Bob is messed up in the head, that should answer the first question

    2. The Madonna/Whore (lady in the streets, and a freak in the bed) complex is fairly common, its not hard to see why. I mean, every guy wants a good girl, but who is also a sexual freak with him in their alone time. Isn't that reasonable? Women seem to think men should want all or nothing. If a woman is a freak with him, she has to be a freak with every guy in her city?? Not what men want.

  • 4 years ago

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  • 9 years ago

    "Whore complex" sounds something as stupid as the "God complex".

    The very first complex is just idiotic. Why is your friend going out with women who are just...stupid.

    As for the latter, I have already regarded those people as fools as they aren't satisfied with the term superiority complex.

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