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How to develop social skills fast and easy?

Like to be comfortable talking with everyone(even people i don't know) and being open more

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  • 9 years ago
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    Developing your social skills is often a matter of finding common ground with someone. If you are fearing judgment, censorship, or being ostracized, it will be hard to find common ground with people. You feel less intimidated when you have a common interest that draws you close to each other.

    Here are some suggestions on how to find common ground with others:

    1. Learn to be a good listener. Make sure your body language reflects that you are listening. Many people are just looking for someone they can talk to. If they feel that they can talk to you, then they will be much more inclined to listen to you.

    2. Learn to ask good questions. People who know how to ask the right question at the right time do very well in socializing with others. Sometimes it is not what you say, but what you ask that endears people to you. The right question will help you find common ground and tell the person you are talking to that you are interested.

    3. Learn to laugh at yourself. If you walk around self-conscious, people will be more paranoid around you. But if you can laugh at yourself, then others will feel more comfortable around you too. The first step in feeling easy around others is to first feel easy around yourself.

    4. Be hard to offend. If you have a chip on your shoulder, people won't want to be around you. Don't look for the bad in others--you'll always find it. Much of it will be misunderstood and will only create more fear in your further interactions.

    There are many more things you can do. I've written many articles (including a book) on the subject. Feel free to read the articles at: http://www.fitlyspoken.org/

    Hope this helps!

  • 9 years ago

    think of them as ordinary people who aren't any different from you..im not very comfortable talking to people, but i have to because a lot of the things we do require us to talk to others, like in school or a job..we can't stop it.

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