should i be myself or do what i have to to survive?
I'm a 17 year old boy who's gay but in the closet. They say its a choice as if I chose to live a life of rejection, hate, misunderstanding, not being able to truly love a woman and have kids and a family, rejection by peers, having to put on a facad around girls. Its not a choice because id be straight if I wasn't attracted to boys instead of girls. All these aspects of my sexuality are ripping at my soul to the point of depression. Being depressed about who you are ain't that a *****. Before you say I shoild come out of the closet I'm not coming out of the closet as if I have a disease everybody needs to be alerted to "hey eveybody I have the querness" "there's somthing wrong with me". About homo being a sin, naww I'm not saying jesus christ is wrong, but an old translation of a book may be. Originally the bible was referring to prostitution etc. Please I need some advice on coping I'm 17 and have a long life ahead of me
your right, there's nothing wrong with me. Society is what's wrong and I don't wanna end up killing some people you see my rage at ssociety is too the point where I'm gonna ******* lose it and go on a rampage
- Anonymous9 years agoFavorite Answer
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- 9 years ago
There is nothing wrong with you, if this is truly how you feel. There are some things you just can't help. However, even straight people who are attracted to the opposite sex still have to practice chastity. Just because you "have this feeling" doesn't mean that you get to act on it physically with the next person who comes along that suits your fancy. It has not been proven that homosexuality is genetic, so who knows, maybe it will go away. It could just be a mood swing.
As to the Bible, the translations are correct when God condemns homosexuality. Back then when they were translated, people spoke the languages they were translating it to. They were experts in the field, and had the Holy Spirit helping them to boot.
However, it is not wrong to be that way, that is, to feel like that. But it is wrong to act on it.
"Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination." -- Leviticus 18:22
"Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed indecent acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their perversion." -- Romans 1:26-27
I hope you choose the right path, which is straight and narrow. It's hard, but worth it. God Bless!
- 9 years ago
The modern science can't treat homosexuality. No offends, but it has been proven that this has to do with some disorder in the genes. Whatever you do, live your live as it suits you. Just don't complain if you get an AIDS or something worse one day. Be careful and nice to the people and you may be surprised how many friends out there you may find. And your sexuallity won't mean anything to them...
- 9 years ago
It's difficult to be put into this situation; especially over your sexual preference. People need to learn to be more tolerable and accepting. There is NOTHING wrong with you - and I know you stated that you didn't want to come out of the closet, but perhaps you should visit someone, maybe ONE person you could truly confide in and trust no matter what, and discuss these kinds of feelings. It's hard to keep every frustrating feeling inside, very hard.
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- Anonymous5 years ago
You sound depressed, so all of these suggestions probably sound bleak to you, but actually they are really good ones. If you try all of these things all you're still depressed, I would consider going to a therapist you felt comfortable talking to, and figure out the cause of your depression. You arent as mentally fked as you think. Being sad isn't fked up. You aren't mentally broken because you feel intense sadness. The only thing you should differently is find another way to express those emotions. Write a "fked up" book that could rival Stephen king and all his "messed up" glory. Create a piece of art that fully shows how you feel, or represents what makes you depressed. Try to get symbolic with it. The ultimate purpose of art is to enjoy making it, and letting artistic therapy help show the thoughts I your brain. Good luck! Always here for support. You can message me anytime in the near or distant future for anything.
- Anonymous9 years ago
whatever you do you will do as yourself
any changes you make will just become the new you
there maybe some who will have difficulty accepting you for who you are
but the vast majority of people have open minds and open hearts
stand tall young one, and be proud of the real you
- 9 years ago
Sometimes being yourself may mean being too lazy to work. But isn't this one big criticism against people on welfare and other forms of supplemental income?