Woah, woah, woah....you're getting comments from high school kids who never homeschooled a day in their lives or even KNOW someone who does. These kiddies haven't even set foot in the real world yet, their view is pretty myopic. (Of course I thought I knew it all at 18, too...)
I disagree with your view that homeschooling "is no longer accepted." I find quite the contrary, and we've been doing this for five years now. I sort of fell into homeschooling; I'd never even considered it before, and wasn't planning on it with my kids. Basically my kid missed the age cutoff by just under two weeks, and I figured I would homeschool him "just for kindergarten" and then enroll him. Besides, I hadn't really figured out which school he should go to, so I could do my research in that year.
Total eye-opener. I learned lots of new things I didn't know: (A) There's no such thing as open enrollment here...you go where they tell you, period. (B) There are no charter schools, either. The legislature, in all their infinite wisdom, outlawed those with a very few exceptions, allowed only for students living on certain blocks in certain parts of the poorest sector of the city. (C) The state average score for the competency exams hovers at the 36th percentile. (D) The two largest school districts in the state have lost accreditation, and have been taken over by the state. NCLB is the least of their worries right now. (E) Our state ranks 48th in the nation for education. (F) Our county recently took the #1 spot in the nation for underage drinking rates, and my assigned school district ranked #1 in the nation for teen pregnancy. Go, us!! (We got a spot on Leno for that one.) (G) Private schools run about $10K to $30K per year, per student....unless you go parochial. Then it's $5K per year, and you get (I kid you not, their words, not mine) "daily Jesus Time" for your buck. Hmmmmm.
So. We just kept going, and added the youngest into things when she got old enough.
The kids are in plenty of activities, but I don't think those are really good ways to make friends. You're still expected to sit down and shut up and pay attention during scouts or gymnastics or whatever. Lots of free time with the other person is what builds friendships. At this point, my kids are more joining activities because their friends are in those activities...instead of joining activities to find friends. Joining groups that center around something they're interested in is a great start. If the kid loves horses, you join a group that's about horses. Now they have a group of people who have at least this similar interest in common. (This is how adults make friends, since they don't go to school.) We've taken a trip to Disney World with one of his friends' family, and we traveled to San Diego with a different friends' family...all this past summer. Most homeschool kids are just average kids. There are a few geniuses here and there (I know one kindergartner who is reading words like "Aluminum" and "Environmental;" I know a homeschooling senior who is trying to decide between MIT, Yale and Cal Poly; I know another one who is packing his stuff because he has been offered a job at YouTube already) and a couple of freaks, just like the general population. I once tried to research known sociopaths who had been homeschooled, but to no avail. Even the Unabomber went to public school.
· 8 years ago