Well, I don't know if I quite understand or agree with your email. Why in teh world would you want to pay for a service that is free to you in your country? Yes I read and understand your hubby wanting to be involved in teh birthing process, but at what costs?
My husband and I both have decent jobs. I gave birth to my fist baby in April 2011. I had to have a c-section (which it seems is the norm now for doctors) to bill insurance co more money. At any rate, my final bill for labor and delivery and all those special thinsg they add in once tehy fond out you have decent insurance andnot medicare/caid, was $38,000! My insurance paid 90 percent of it, but I still have a bill for $3,800, in which I am on a payment plan for! Again this was just for L&D. Now as far as doctor visits (prenatal care), I would say for my total 9 months or so...my bill was about $4000 to $5000 for doctor visits, ultrasounds, stress test, etc. I had to pay 10 percent of that, which was about $500, plus the $3800 for L&D.
Didn't you know the US is in a major healthcare crisis and reform? I diubt if you wll be able to get any reasonably priced healthcare here (if it is not through your job). Plus there are loopholes that many companies use for whats called a pre-existing condition. I mean who would ensure you now, knowing within a few months you will hit their pockets to the tune of 25 grand or more?
Have your baby in Canada and avoid the US. There is nothing special about the US. We are a country full of idiots!
Also consider, you pay all that money to have your baby in the US and wind up having to have a c-section. Guess what, most doctors will not let your husband be involved as he would like to be. Actually with my c-sectin, doctors wouldn't allow my hubby below the sheet, so you did not actually see the baby being born...that would be a bummer!