I'd personally be startled if I went on a date 34 year old man who was still a virgin, but there are some subcultures where it's quite normal: devoutly religious types do expect abstinence before marriage, for example. And there are a ton of, shall we say, "unwilling" virgins like yourself... some people have a very hard time with dating and relationships. You have options, obviously. The fastest one would be to hire a professional from a reputable escort agency. If you are really that awkward around women, it might be your best option, too. But if you are looking more to get into relationships, why not try online dating? Corresponding via email and chat before you meet lets you get to know each other a bit and lets you do some of the getting-to-know-you stuff in a comfortable, relaxing environment. And maybe look into talking with a therapist about your social anxiety around women. It's a skill like anything else and you *can* learn it even if it doesn't come naturally.