Why would a woman be upset if she thought she was "second choice"?
Jack meets Jane and Jill at a singles mixer. Jane and Jill are friends and Jack is interested in both of them. He would like to date both of them to see which one he is more attracted to. If Jack pursues Jane initially, then Jill, will Jill feel like second choice?
I ran this by a male and female friend. The lady said "Oh no, you can't go after both as they'll talk to each other and Jill will feel like second choice." My guy friend said "How the h*ll should I know?"
I also threw in this...Jill isn't second choice...she is more like 99th. Jack's first choice was the little red haired girl in 4th grade. Everyone is someone else's "second" choice, unless they both meet as virgins who've never dated anyone else, date, and marry each other.