Do I have to pay child support and be a father to my biological child I don't want?

I don't say that to be a mean person because I am a father of two children already that I have with my wife.

The problem is two years before I met my wife I used to drink a lot at parties till I was completely wasted. During this time, there was a married woman who had a husband stationed overseas who really liked me but didn't tell me that she was married (no ring or anything and her friends kept it a secret apparently). Well she was never attractive until I was so drunk I probably didn't know my own name and we ended up having sex a couple times.

Years past and I cleaned up my act and eventually met my wife. We fell in love, married and have two children. Now, I get a phone call from her husband telling me that his second child is not his and that his wife confessed that she had an affair with me, so it is mine. I hung up the phone and told him I don't know what he is talking about and not to call back.

In all honesty, I have no idea if this is mine or not because I know she also had sex with my best friend at the time as well and who knows who else. My question is, although it has been years and if this goes to court, does anyone know if I have to pay this woman any child support or would I have to be in this kid's life? I really don't want to be because I have my own family and I know my wife would leave my *** if she found this to be true because the one thing she required of me before we married was that I had no attachments to other women or had children from previous relationships. I live in the state of Florida, and would like to know what my legal responsibilities would be.

Update:

Nope, my name is not on the birth certificate at all.

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago
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    Yes, you have to pay, and no you are not required to have a relationship. However, society does not need another fatherless child growing up to contribute to 85% of crime.

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    The name on the birth certificate in this instance in Florida is irrelevant however do they live in Florida as it is the state laws that the child resides in that will take precedence. In Florida as they are married he is deemed the legal father and has the responsibilities not you. Other states are different though and it is possible in some that you can be forced to pay child support. There is nowhere though that would force you to actually play a part in the childs life.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    YOu'd best seek some legal advice.

    I googled and there is a fair bit of information out there on paternity in Florida, the father's rights and the child's rights. Seems she can take you to court for child support and the judge will order you to undertake a DNA test, even though she was married at the time.

    Good luck and seek some legal advice.

  • 10 years ago

    You will have to pay child support if a DNA test says that it is your child, no one can force you to be a part of this child's life. These things happen. Last year we got a call that my husband has a 19 year old son from a similar situation. No child support due from us, but I will say we have tried to make him know he is welcome and loved in our house. Most smart women know that this type of a thing is a possibility. If you didn't know, you didn't know.... Hopefully your wife and you have a close enough friendship and enough love to talk about this, you really shouldn't be alone with this information I think. Good luck.

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  • 10 years ago

    If your name is on the birth certificate then you will have to pay. The last I knew as long as there is a mans name on the birth certificate if it is his or not he is responsible for the child.

  • 10 years ago

    I think that if it is your child then you do have to pay but you could dispute it in court.

  • 10 years ago

    if it is your child,does not matter if you don't like the idea.

    oh,if only it was that easy to get out of child support.

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