How do you cope with the negative parts of things........................... the good things?

yes its good to try to see the good and accept what you have with that etc, but what if the bad that happens just takes over that
how do you cope?
Update: oh ye faithful, well, thats good, youd be happy with me then :-P

i actually agree with that :-)
Update 2: some good answers ;-)
Update 3: i didnt even word this one the way i wanted either leaping water, its still not quite what i wanted to ask ;-|...grrr

its not easy to put these damn thoughts here never mind make it so they are 'fully understood' by other people readin it
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