I did adoption. Back in 2009. The father never even saw me pregnant, he left when he found out. It was the worst WORST feeling in the world doing adoption. It felt so right up until I had him but then it felt too late to keep him. I felt like I HAD to do it by then. I felt very happy that I made a nice family complete. I did something only God could do, give them a child. They couldn't have one. And I wasn't able to raise my child (that's what i told myself). But the pain took forever to fade even a little. Three years now, I still cry sometimes. THE NIGHTMARES are the worst. Please be careful, you aren't going to realize how much you love her until shes there.
wait to make this desicion until shes born please. If I would have done that I would still have my first child.
I wanted to kill myself because of all the pain I went through giving birth and seeing his beautiful eyes stare in mine. Then I gave him to his "new parents".They pushed and pushed me to do it, and I felt like I couldn't be a good mom!
And I want you to know you CAN DO IT, THERE ARE WAYS!
Yes I know he lives the best life ever, but please please, realize this will be the most painful thing you ever do in your life, ever! It will tare you into pieces~!
I think that either choice you make is extremely brave and either way will be so hard.
You are very strong already.
I was so traumatized from doing adoption because of my life problems that i went and had another kid. I love him to death but I still think sometimes i should have waited. I have a psycho boyfriend and I live with my parents.
Either way will be very hard.
My own family spread rumours that I sold him and that i was a failure, so yes people will say the worst things about you for it.
You just need to know in your heart that you did the right thing and stick to that.
If you believe you are makeing the right choice, then you are. but please be careful. :)
Just be happy with your desicion