Nobody ever likes my opinions on marriage...why, well because they are biblical and what i base my marriage on. Do I think you need to feel miserable the rest of your life? No. However, you chose this man to marry and while you can't remember why right now, there was a reason. He chose you and while he can't remember why right now there is a reason. You have to realize that every marriage faces tough times, and love is a not a feeling, it is a decision. The problem is we listen to romantic movies, pop songs and such and thing, oh i need to feel in love with them, I need to want them, they need to want me. It isn't true. Most marriage start off with 2 people crazy about each other, but they don't stay that way. Sometimes things get hard, sometimes work demand alot, kids don't always help marriage it gets tough, but God didn't make marriage to be a seasonal thing, when the wind changes it doesn't mean you can move on. I heard a great marriage speech one time in where the man asked, if there was nobody else would you get a divorce? Re-marriage is wrong according to the bible, so one of the best things you can do is realize if this is it, then this is it forever. It really puts things into perspective. Have you all tried counseling. Many problems needs outside help, it's stuff you cannot fix by yourself. Your mother is wise, prayer is a very strong tool, but you also have to be proactive in fixing what is broken. You may need to send the kids with mom for a week and hit up a marriage seminar with the hubby. Just try and remember LOVE is a decision, people stay married for 50 plus years because they choose to, not because they feel like it. The good news is eventually you get over the rough spots and you find the feeling again. It can work, if your willing to work on it. See why most people don't like my philosophy of marriage. Because most people thing marriages aren't made to last and I disagree.
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Book Gary Smalley- Love is a Decision
Book Gray D. Chapman- The 5 love languages