It is important to know WHEN to be silly. When you are silly in the wrong environment or at the wrong time, this is when people say to grow up and act your age. Therefore, the onus is on you to pay attention and observe, and to figure out when you need to be serious, and when it's okay to be silly. As soon as you have grown up enough to do this, people will stop telling you to grow up.
But it is important to retain the childlike sense of wonder and playfulness ... important for your psychological health. Just learn to be aware of when you can unleash it appropriately. In our society, silliness is pretty well confined to private time (rather than public time), and shared with those who can also be silly.
For me, this is when I get together with my daughter or my sister. We try to keep it out of public formats, because it annoys other people ... even at home, when we are clutching our stomachs, falling off the chairs with laughter, trying to catch out breath ... my husband gets disgusted and leaves the room. Do you think I would give up this laughter, so healthy for body and soul, just to act my age? NO WAY! But there's a time and a place for it.
62 and still laughing
· 7 years ago